terrible mothers

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  @TheQueerKiwi · 1 year ago (edited) · pinned

  here to clarify in case i did a poor job in the video: narcissism ≠ abusive. this video is about people who don&apos;t seek help and then make their mental health the problem of their children. the same way almond mums make their eating disorders their children&apos;s problems. <br><br>you are not a bad person if you have npd. you can have children and be a good parent if you have npd. the problem is that a lot of people don&apos;t seek help and don&apos;t care about how their actions affect people, and that&apos;s has negative repercussions, and that expands out into mental health as a whole.<br><br>as someone with bdp i understand the frustration when people assume you&apos;re abusive and that was not my intention and i apologise to anyone i may have upset. it is never my intention to villainise mental illness and i will be more wary going forwards.

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  @briannaforward1155 · 1 year ago

  When I had a child my entire thought process was, “he didn’t decide to be here, I decided to have him. He owes me nothing. Not even blind obedience.” He’s only 20 months, but he is so sweet, silly, empathetic, kind, smart. I can’t wait to see him continue to grow and develop into his own person. It’s so fun. <br><br>Being a parent is such a privilege, yet people treat it as a burden and blame their kids for a decision the kid didn’t make.

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  @unwrittenpaige7791 · 1 year ago

  &quot;Hey, you did this really traumatizing thing and it messed with me.&quot; &quot;Yeah, but I don&apos;t do that anymore.&quot; &quot;I mean, I know, but it affects me still and-&quot; &quot;My dad beat me.&quot;

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  @Vocalief · 1 year ago

  My dad also hates the label thing. When I first told him about my ADHD diagnosis he was accepting and was like &apos;that makes sense &apos; then the next time my ADHD came up he went on a rant about why do young people need to put labels on everything... And wouldn&apos;t accept that it helps me feel better.

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  @noname-ur4gr · 1 year ago

  My family refused to acknowledge that I&apos;m mentally ill.... both my mom and my grandma said &quot;it&apos;s just a hormonal imbalance in your brain- it&apos;s not a mental illness&quot; 😅😅😅 I literally had to explain to them that it&apos;s literally what an illness can be

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  @SD-rb5xp · 1 year ago

  GOD the one my mom used on me recently was &quot;All daughters have complicated relationships with their mothers.&quot; AND LIKE????? NO

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  @joeneauxvieve6203 · 1 year ago

  My mom wanted multiple kids, but fertility problems meant she only had one: me.<br><br>I am so glad that I am my mother&apos;s only child. I&apos;m still healing from the hurt all these years later, but at least she never got the chance to hurt more kids.

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  @ekoslife · 1 year ago

  my mom didnt understand why my panic attacks would completely disable me when they happened- UNTIL she experienced them herself. she started having panic attacks in my late teen years, and it was really a “i told you so” moment.

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  @EdrickBluebeard · 1 year ago

  I work in medical records and release, and the amount of moms who have absolute melt downs because they can&apos;t access their adult child&apos;s records without permission is... &nbsp;upsetting.

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  @xmilax96 · 1 year ago

  I heard someone say this years ago and it never left me: &quot;its hard when you have a kid that is &apos;just like you were&apos; and you realize how easy it is to love them&quot;

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  @YaotzinMI · 1 year ago

  I&apos;m in my mid 30s. Same age as my parents were raising me, it&apos;s infuriating realizing how simple it is to be kind to children and give them attention and grace and stability. Consistently something happens that reminds me &quot;oh that would have gotten me punished&quot; and seeing it from the eyes of an adult just leaves me stunned in disbelief how these people treated me as a young child

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  @solarianvoid-pi9428 · 1 year ago (edited)

  <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tH0LUQ2MPpE&amp;t=768">12:48</a> Last time a friend tried that “oh I’m sorry I’m so shitty and blah blah blah” I went “I’m glad you recognise you’re awful.”<br>You could hear the record screech from their brain 😂😂😂

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