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Does your life feel broken?

121K views · Apr 30, 2024 · Entertainment

struthless

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@struthless · 2 years ago (edited) · pinned
Thanks so much for watching!! Go to <a href="https://dayoneapp.com/struthless">https://dayoneapp.com/struthless</a> and use code struthless to get a limited-time offer of a two-month free trial with Day One Journal Premium. Also - what I said about favourite failures!! Would love to see some if anyone's feeling generous :)
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@1980rlquinn · 2 years ago (edited)
Yo, long-time Japan resident here. Setting aside how the west has extrapolated a metaphor from kintsukuroi/kintsugi above and beyond the simple crafting technique it is in its home country, one important aspect people seem to miss is that the gold application is the last step and is, essentially, optional. In the traditional kitsugi technique, the joining of the pieces doesn't occur from the gold but from the lacquer, and the gold is applied over the lacquer to visually enhance the cracks. (Trying to use a "gold" lacquer or mixed gold and glue is going to be a weaker join than proper lacquer.) It you are going to go for the westernized metaphor, I think this difference is an important one... We can only look back and tell our stories with this polished (palatable) narrative once we've decided the journey is complete and ready to be presented to an audience. But before we get to that point, we have to put in the work of recovery. You might like to tattoo a clever design over a wound, but you must let the scar form first. You might hope to bear your cracks boldly with gold, but you first have to set them with glue. It's not a romantic story until it's finished, and if you aren't aware of that, you might find yourself going through crisis and thinking you can't come out of this beautifully because, while you might see everyone else's finished works, you can't see the gold on your own that's not (yet) there. It comes last. (edit: typo)
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@nicks4727 · 2 years ago
My biggest failure was that I was depressed and did nothing for 8 years. But getting out of that forced me to learn how to regulate my emotions and handle my thoughts to such a degree I don't believe I can become depressed again. I also have better resistance and can keep calm in emotionally intense situations.
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@ellenburns6466 · 2 years ago
In Permaculture, Bill Mollison says that "the problem is the solution". One of his famous quotes is "you don't have a slug problem, you have a duck deficiency" 😅🦆
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@DanTasticGlastonbury · 2 years ago
I had cancer when I was 19, after I got the all clear my life mission was to see the world, party everyday, continually travel and never settle down... I failed I met a girl at a festival, fell in love, moved in together, got a cat, started a business, bought a house, got married, had a kid, now pregnant with a second child & I quit drinking The antithesis of my life plan, the mission was a failure But I'm so happy ♥️ Thanks for your content Struthess, I recommend your book to everyone 🙌🏻
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@cyrilio · 2 years ago
Here's another fun fact to boost your mood. Every week do at least one 15 minute 'Awe Walk'. This is just a regular walk, but you have to look around and try and find 'Awe' in something. Can be anything; a beautiful tree, color of the sky, three cars in a row with the same color, whatever. The title of the paper says it all: "Big Smile, Small Self: Awe Walks Promote Prosocial Positive Emotions".
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@uneducatedswamplet · 2 years ago
Some people have been sharing some really heavy stuff in the comments, but a small but great failure i had the other day is what's on my mind; I was working on a storyboard, and in trying to work quickly I hadn't saved correctly and I lost a bit of work. I got annoyed at myself for losing those first few frames of the storyboard, but there was nothing i could do other than redraw them. When i redrew them, they were quicker and angrier, but what it also did was give the drawings way more energy and visual interest.
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@dorkavojtko8067 · 2 years ago
My favourite failure was "wasting" two years in the wrong university. I studied computer science in THE most popular school of my country, and tried to push through the impossible demands my professors had just so that I can brag that I got a degree from there. I sacrificed pretty much everything: my hobbies, my friendships, my health - both mental and physical... I was miserable and my only way of escaping that feeling was through my phone. After two years and failing many courses - some more than once - I decided not only to change university, but to change my outlook of what college is meant to be about. I'm now way less stressed, I joined a club, I made wonderful friendships and slowly but surely got back to the things I loved to do in the past- mainly drawing and writing. I even took on new habits, like going to the gym. It's still a work in progress, I still spend way too much time on my phone as a way of escapism, but I at least feel like I am getting somewhere.
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@emhaggs_art · 2 years ago
My favorite failure is moving to LA to become a TV writer, something I dreamed about nearly my entire life, and leaving LA after only one year. I went through an identity crisis afterward. If I wasn’t going to be a tv writer who was I? I’m happy to say that after I’d say 5ish years later, and a lot more exploration, I am much more confident in myself as person outside of my job. My identity is not tied to my job or my dream. I am much more go with the flow now when it comes to jobs, careers, aspirations, dreams. I fully believe that we’re not meant to be one thing our entire lives. So maybe one day I’ll be a tv writer. But not now, and that’s okay with me.
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@onplanetnoa · 2 years ago (edited)
Not sure if it's my favorite failure, but it's certainly my most important: becoming an alcoholic during the pandemic and living with the disease for almost four years afterward. It made me realize how valuable life is and how much I'd been wasting away even before I abused the bottle. Though I still struggle with cravings and the urge to use, I never do and haven't since the beginning of the year. I've even started working on the graphic novel I'd brainstormed right before addiction sent my life into a spiral.
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@FreddotheWheelchairGuy · 2 years ago
My favourite failure: snowboarding off a cliff in 2019 and becoming paralysed from the waist down. Who knew that from this setback I would find peace, headspace and immense gratitude for the simple things in life.
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@merilynfly8711 · 2 years ago
Also, a Leonard Cohen lyric: "there's a crack in everything... that's how the light gets in", or something along those lines.
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