It's Not Just Jealousy: Why Seeing Your Ex Move On Hurts | Psychologist Explains

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• AN

  @antoniomele4830 · 2 months ago

  This explains exactly how I feel. I'm here still healing and I see her with someone new. The worst part is that I never stopped loving her, I'm just learning to live with this feeling

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• CL

  @clocks54 · 2 months ago

  I've had the urge to contact my ex, but it's good to know I can address this within myself without reaching out. I am getting closer to healing.

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• AA

  @aaaaashhhl · 2 months ago

  the sting isn't that they moved on, it's that some part of you was still measuring your healing by their loneliness. i noticed i was doing that. checking if they were doing okay without me, like their happiness or misery was proof of something about us. once i caught myself doing it, i just stopped checking. deleted the mental tally i didn't even know i was keeping. and my days actually got quieter after that, less about them, more about what i was doing with my own time. 💔

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• JO

  @johnlamport775 · 2 months ago

  How many has an ex who was already in another relationship but never said anything untill they were found out.  Everyone?

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• JI

  @jillywillyjee · 1 month ago

  Thank you so much for making these videos Maika, they help so much! ❤️ it's so difficult sometimes, I feel like a crazy person with a broken brain but your wisdom helps to untangle the madness. You teach me that my brains natural actions as a bi product of a breakup are quite normal, this helps me work through them and not feel so mental! There's a reason for the feelings and there's hope in time that they'll lessen and I'll be able to be more content 🌝

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• NA

  @namelessdoug · 2 months ago

  Very heartfelt ❤️

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• 아니

  @아니가브레래Yule · 2 months ago

  This is exactly my situation right now—it’s incredibly painful due to the betrayal. I was cheated on for a few months before being dumped because he found someone new; he claimed he no longer loved me because he was pouring all his affection into the new person. I tried to move on, but whenever I stopped reaching out, he would find ways to reconnect with me. <br>It is truly time for me to put an end to this situation that has caused me such severe pain—I am physically drained, mentally exhausted, and emotionally crushed; I have been experiencing profound distress since January. It&apos;s hard to be committed with someone who exhibits characteristics of a Cluster B disorders.

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• RA

  @RAVENSandDOOMS · 1 month ago

  As much as I hate hearing the truth, it calms me down every time.

• NA

  @Namaste3333-k1u · 2 months ago

  Thank you for doing these videos, they help a lot, as a guy we&apos;re told not to have these feelings but they are there. You advice helps.

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• JO

  @johnlamport775 · 2 months ago

  What you described is exactly how am feeling today after 6 months apart. <br>I will make a bigger effort to get myself back on track in the knowledge that it&apos;s not just me.<br>Thank you so much for telling &nbsp;me something I didn&apos;t know I needed to hear.

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• JA

  @JaenMuron · 2 months ago (edited)

  What helped me a lot decades ago after I heard my ex had moved on was learning something entirely new, something which was way outside my comfort zone and had nothing to do with my usual interests. I took, for instance, motorcycle lessons even though I didn&apos;t care about motors and knew I&apos;d never buy or use one. But it turned out to be fun. Somehow it taught my brains that there were things (read: persons) beyond my horizon which/who are fun, interesting, satisfying or provide any other positive experience. So it shifted my attention to something/someone new instead on what/who I was used to.<br>By the way, I never got my license because I unexpectedly met my wife and I started spending time with her instead on motorcycle lessons...

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• SU

  @suegoeswest · 2 months ago (edited)

  Mine moved on with my very best friend very shortly after. They both lied to my face about it repeatedly and then eventually ghosted and blocked me. I had to find out through other sources, which inflicted much more harm. I have been deeply traumatized ever since.

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