THIS is how you heal the father wound

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  @TheHolisticPsychologist · 2 years ago · pinned

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  @stephanie4175 · 2 years ago

  I have both parent wounds. I am in my forties and I’ve managed to not have any friends, relationships or family. My inner child is terrified of everything. I will start with the letter.

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  @selorasoulstice · 2 years ago

  So timely, my father wound has been triggered AF all week and has devolved into &quot;I no longer trust ANY man&quot;. Thank you 🙏🏻

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  @maddi3582 · 2 years ago

  My father died 20+ years ago this month. As a child I used to feel sorry for men/my dad because, from what I experienced, it seemed that men/my dad got nothing from &apos;family life&apos; - it all seemed such a burden to him 😱 A simple, small example: when I was a teenager, he would complain about collecting me (and usually wouldn&apos;t) from after-school and social events in the evening because of the strain a short journey would put on the car... For most of my life, I felt embarrassed, slightly aggrieved, but grew numb to it all, sadly.<br> <br>Even now (childless and single...) all these years later, I am taken aback (in a good way!!) when I see men who relish their children, their wives, and their love of their family life, though a tiny part of me still doesn&apos;t REALLY believe men enjoy having a family 🤷‍♀️<br><br>I can see I really need to work this exercise! Thank you, Dr Nicole 🙏

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  @supreetsingh2853 · 1 year ago

  As the only girl child, my father was good to me and I was the pampered child. But my dad abused my mother and elder brother financially, physically and mentally. As a result, I became hyper vigilant and people pleaser and started to take on blames on myself ( because I saw my mother being blamed all the time by him). Then during COVID time both my mom and brother passed away and this brought a lot of grief in me, as I was emotionally bonded with them. <br>Then came a time where I took a step to go for therapy and did inner child healing. It made me aware that I have been married to a husband that relates to the behavior of my Dad and I was repeating my mom&apos;s life.<br>I decided to break this chain. I am in my healing process, a much better person today, no more people pleasing ( I had to let go off some of my relations for good), I have more confidence and awareness for myself. Iam raising and nurturing 2 beautiful children. I like my new version 💕

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  @emilythesongbird2306 · 1 year ago

  Just wrote a letter to my inner child with my non-dominant hand. I asked her what kind of support she needed. She said she wants to danxe more, to feel special, seen, acknowledged, to have more fun, play and laugh more. She also doesn&apos;t want to be hidden anymore, dismissed or silenced. &quot;Let me shine y life. I want to give voice to my songs and stories.&quot;. I will continue to take steps to heal this wound with your guidance.

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  @vivianearaujo6758 · 1 year ago

  This is why I would never trade adulthood for childhood. I much rather have the agency and capability for change I have now as an adult, than the powerlessness I had as a child.

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  @withlovechristine3378 · 2 years ago

  My mom and dad divorced when I was 6 years old. Never saw my dad again until I was 16. We spent a weekend together and then never saw him again. My mom moved in with my &quot;stepdad&quot; when I was 9 years old. &nbsp;My stepdad treated my mom like garbage and was mentally abusive to my mom, myself and my two siblings. He did not spend any time with us kids and made us feel like a nuisance most of the time. I don&apos;t remember him ever asking how my day was or having a conversation with him. I suffer from low self esteem and spent all of my life looking for validation &nbsp;from men in very unhealthy ways. &nbsp;Always choosing the ones that treated me like garbage and pushing away the ones that weren&apos;t. I&apos;m 50 years old now and trying to heal so that the second half of my life is more aligned with what I need and want rather than seeking validation from others by molding myself into what others deem worthy. &nbsp;I am worthy simply by existing and don&apos;t have to prove my value to anyone.

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  @Layla___channel24 · 2 years ago

  It&apos;s hard to get support when you get belittled and told that you have no problems.

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  @hearttalkscoach · 2 years ago

  I think our anger and grief can TELL us a lot about our own needs, and then we can do our best (as our best parent) to get them met and self-soothe. Giving our anger and grief the space they deserve, rather than avoiding or numbing, is a whole practice all on it&apos;s own! Thank you for integrating this so succinctly.

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  @Travellearnarabic · 1 month ago (edited)

  Finally someone who gave a solution for this, thank you please more of these videos

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  @SingBluebird · 2 years ago

  My Dad passed three years ago and I miss him. I wish he was still here. It’s tough to work through my father wound when I just want to accept and forgive everything and remember the good about him.

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