HEALING DISORGANIZED ATTACHMENT: SERIES ON HEALING ATTACHMENT WOUNDS

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• RO

  @roseclimbpaintcont · 2 years ago

  "big swing between anxiety and avoidance" absolutely. It makes being attracted to someone new nearly impossible because it hurts as it results in inner turmoil.

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• JI

  @JimmieABES · 2 years ago

  I have this attachment style and didn’t even know it. I’ve sabotaged pretty much every relationship I’ve been in, so I’m happy I finally know what to work on.

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• BI

  @biddyRamsay · 3 years ago

  I cannot explain how much I appreciate this content. I am so grateful to live in a time where this kind of self help is available. Here's to everyone healing themselves and to a happy future.

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• ME

  @melliecrann-gaoth4789 · 1 year ago

  Compassion to all telling their stories here. May we all continue to heal.

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• YB

  @yb8904 · 2 years ago

  Im a man who has this attachment issue. Everything you described is literally my childhood. I never talked to anyone about it and kept it bottled up. My relationships all self sabotage down to a lack of trust with that person and I’m always attached to the hip, doing things out of character a bit too much in a loving way but also never trusting them, accusations, stalking etc because I don’t trust them and don’t want them to leave me. All my relationships have been pretty bad. I’ve had enough and now at 29 it’s time to look for help before it’s too late.

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• WA

  @wakanchariot · 2 years ago

  I lean towards being more avoidant, i want intimacy and love but when it's right there i get overwhelmed and claustrophobic like i don't know what to do with it and i shut down.  Then the person withdraws their love,  attention,  etc., and i become anxious and it feels like I can't survive without them. I have been in isolation for almost 3 years now reflecting on how these behaviors contributed to my last relationship that was toxic. I am afraid to ever try another relationship until i can heal this in myself. I am having a hard time connecting with anyone at all these days. ..

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• LA

  @laurakhaydon · 2 years ago

  For me, I'm terrified of hurting someone else so I avoid romantic relationships. I'm scared of getting attached and then finding my feelings for the person have evaporated so I disengage and hurt them. That fear is far greater than being hurt myself

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• RO

  @Romiegirl-jq4rj · 2 years ago (edited)

  Both myself and my husband are disorganized attachment. Two dysfunctional peas in a pod. We both had a childhood that was both love and fear our parents. Didn’t realize my childhood messed me up so much until my mirror of a spouse brought up such traits to work through.

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• YU

  @yul2393 · 2 years ago

  Therapy is too expensive for me and having access to videos like this is really, really helpful. Thank you for sharing your knowledge ❤

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• BR

  @brockobama257 · 3 years ago

  As a child I dealt with taming the chaos by priming. My mom drank, if she was drunk she verbally abused me, if she was sober she was overly loving. In order to mitigate psychological chaos, as in me trying to make sense of the messages she sent me, I would tell myself I was a bad person. That way when she told me she hated me, it made logical sense. When she told me she loved me, it was a pleasant surprise.<br><br>Now in adulthood that priming ruins my relationships.

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• CH

  @christina6103 · 4 years ago

  I figured I was just an avoidant but I always felt I was a mix of different attachment styles. This is incredibly helpful. Your quality information is finally leading me in the right direction to heal. Thank you &nbsp;❤️

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• KH

  @kharper101 · 4 years ago

  I am dating someone with this attachment style and this video was really helpful for me to better understand what might be going on under the surface. Thank you ❤️

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