How to Truly LET GO and MOVE ON From a Breakup

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  @erikbartlett2147 · 7 months ago (edited)

  "Don't invest in someone based on how much you like them. Invest in those who invest in you".

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• ST

  @stephenbaker1 · 6 months ago

  What hurts the most is that even after everything, even after the tears and the sleepless nights, my heart still loves you. I wish it was easy to stop caring, but it’s not. Loving you wasn’t something I could just turn off.

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  @Thelittles11 · 1 year ago

  🎤🎤🎤🎤” You can’t be around people in life who take what you have to give for granted “

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  @MedicCop · 8 months ago

  “Your ex is their own person with their own life. Wish them well and let them go, because their story is not relevant to you anymore. Their life is their life, and it has nothing to do with yours. Wondering how well an ex is, or what they’re doing, is like checking on a rental car that you’ve already given back. A relationship that ends wasn’t ours. It was a rental. When we act in some way like it’s still a part of our life, we get upset to learn that it’s doing great without us. I made a decision a few years ago that I was not  to make those kinds of comparisons, or have those kinds of resentments about how other people were doing. My value doesn’t come from that other person. My value only ever comes from me! If I was somehow deriving my worth from the life that they had, or from who they were, then I was placing my value in something outside myself, and that is a losing game”. - (Matthew Hussey)

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  @alexadoinglife · 1 year ago

  Fortunately I'm past this stage of grief. It's been 2.5 years and I no longer miss him, love him or think he's perfect for me. But the aftermath is trusting someone new. I love listening to these podcasts because it makes me appreciate how far I've come. I'm at peace on my own, not dating and not feeling angst in my head. I'm so comfortable being single that I'm not convinced that I want to enter the dating pool again. Maybe if someone knocks on my front door or bumps into my grocery cart. Hey, stranger things have happened. 😅

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  @dawn8916 · 1 year ago (edited)

  When someone disconnects out of the blue that means there is usually someone else in the picture. They have probably been disconnecting in different ways but you don’t want to acknowledge it. It was a complete shock when I found out the person I was with for 9 years had created a dating profile on Facebook and was talking to like 15 girls. And that was that - and now I’m grappling with learning to live without him. It’s been a month and I am just starting to fully absorb my emotions. Have been numb and it has scared me. I know eventually I will cry it all and the emotions will get out of my tissues so then I can feel my full joy.

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• AU

  @Aurora1122 · 1 year ago (edited)

  I just got dumped this past Saturday in a quite similar scenario where I was informed that my love and care are unwanted. The bluntness of the delivery and the coldness hit me like a ton of bricks - I couldn't believe the same person who was telling me how touched he is by my care was now kicking me out. Sadly, it does feel as if I am worthless - when everything I am got rejected, it brought this fears that I will be forever alone, that no one will want what I am. It hurts immensely...

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• YC

  @yco67 · 2 months ago

  Bad part is some hours or days feels like its over and then wound feels fresh can come back..

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• GL

  @gloriabaca4773 · 1 year ago

  I can't stop ruminating about it. He is avoidant and I'm anxious. It was only five months. I don't understand why I can't get over it.😢

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• RO

  @RoseRedd-k4b · 4 weeks ago

  Breaking up is extremely hard but it's harder when you have no support and when your parents blame you for the fact that you guys broke up.

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  @DorritBögel · 1 year ago

  „You saw the best of yourself in that relationship“ - cannot say it better - thanks a lot 🥰

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  @p07pp-g7u · 1 year ago

  Being in a foreign land, where the language and culture are different, hits harder when someone you love leaves you. It feels as though they not only left but also took away the same culture they once brought closer.<br><br>Our relationship lasted two and a half years, and then she broke it off. I had my doubts and sensed issues, yet I was willing to fight for it. Despite the imperfections, I believed she was the right person for me, as she had enriched my life immensely—how could I leave her?<br><br>I never saw us as a perfect match on many levels, but as a whole, I accepted everything. I was patient for a long time because I understood she needed time to adapt. But in the end, it wasn&apos;t enough. She couldn&apos;t overcome her anxieties or uncertainty.<br><br>This journey has been painful for me, leaving me with a loss of meaning and a sense of not belonging in a foreign land. One lesson I&apos;ve learned is this: Walk away at the very first moment you realize the other person is uncertain and lacks a strong willingness to build a future together.

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