7 Things I'd Avoid in Men (If I Were a Woman)

Complete the Heartbreak in 63 Days. Start Here: https://www.skool.com/becoming-her/about Inside the She Rises community: -A 63-day program to go from wrecked to regulated -Live coaching calls with me every week -A team of IFS practitioners -Private workshops and masterclasses with therapists and scientists -1-on-1 sessions -A room full of women doing this beside you First 7 days free. Join here: https://www.skool.com/becoming-her/about — Btw, I'm Cody. I run Mind, Brain, Body Lab. I help women complete heartbreak with neuroscience, so the next one; is different. Bottom line, I'm not guessing at this. I’ve got a degree in cognitive neuroscience, I’m a certified IFS practitioner, and have thousands of hours of client work with hundreds of women under my belt. I’ve been featured on CNBC, the New York Post, and HuffPost. And I’ve got over a million followers and more than a billion views! But the credentials aren't why I do this. I spent years attracting the wrong people: a first girlfriend who made love feel conditional, a college partner who cheated, a three-year abusive relationship, and then a breakup with the person I thought was The One that blindsided me. I did the work alone, piecing it together from books, podcasts, and therapy with no clear path forward. Here's what I learned getting out of it: you don't need to fix yourself to find love. You need to remember how worthy you've always been, and retrain your nervous system to actually believe it. That's not manifestation or toxic positivity. It's neuroscience, trauma therapy, and reps. Most dating problems aren't dating problems. They're unfinished heartbreak problems. If you’re ready to complete heartbreak so the next one is different, subscribe and stick around. You're loved, you're enough, and I believe in ya. Video Summary ⤵️ -The men most likely to hurt you? Great at the first three dates. Charm was never the tell — I’ll show you what actually is. -There’s one behavior Gottman’s lab could spot in the first few minutes of a couple talking and predict the ending with startling accuracy. It’s not fighting. It’s quieter than that. And uglier. -There’s a single sentence you can say on a date that tells you almost everything — and most men fail it without even realizing they just answered. -“He’s protective.” “He just loves me a lot.” “We’re really enmeshed.” I hear these in session constantly — right before the real word shows up, months too late. -Some men understand you perfectly and feel nothing that moves them to act. There’s a name for that gap, and a way to test it for free. -Character doesn’t perform. It leaks — in three places most women aren’t watching. Spotting the flags was never the hard part. I’ll tell you what actually was. Supporting Research Buehlman, K. T., Gottman, J. M., & Katz, L. F. (1992). How a couple views their past predicts their future: Predicting divorce from an oral history interview. Journal of Family Psychology, 5(3–4), 295–318. Gottman, J. M., & Levenson, R. W. (1992). Marital processes predictive of later dissolution: Behavior, physiology, and health. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 63(2), 221–233. Gottman, J. M., & Levenson, R. W. (2000). The timing of divorce: Predicting when a couple will divorce over a 14-year period. Journal of Marriage and Family, 62(3), 737–745. Schrodt, P., Witt, P. L., & Shimkowski, J. R. (2014). A meta-analytical review of the demand/withdraw pattern of interaction and its associations with individual, relational, and communicative outcomes. Communication Monographs, 81(1), 28–58. (Full list in blog: https://blog.mindbrainbodylab.com/p/t...) Disclaimer: This video is educational in nature and not a substitute for therapy. If attachment wounds or relational trauma are impacting your wellbeing, working with a trauma therapist can help your nervous system relearn safety in connection.