What Happens When You Start Passing as a Man | FTM

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  @steph3nmorgan · 11 months ago (edited) · pinned

  please let me know your thoughts about passing, do you care about it or not at all?<br><br>if you want passing tips check this video out <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4SD04jHN_Bg">https://youtu.be/4SD04jHN_Bg?si=o6F8u0l-avwqKxxT</a>

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  @05_457 · 11 months ago

  this is pretty insane because the other day some 40yr old dude just randomly came over to me while i was sitting under the rain, called me his bro, told me to stay safe and left

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  @zacktheshrimpist7055 · 11 months ago

  Nahhh the amount of random men that come up to me and start complaining about their wife 😭😭

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  @ladyalicent705 · 11 months ago

  LOSING your male privilege as a trans woman is equally crazy. On one hand, some guy has just told you ‘go make me a sandwich woman’ and it’s like, oh, so <i>that’s</i> how it feels and on the other hand it’s like, ‘I pass well enough that some guy will tell me to go make him a sandwich’

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  @dallas5436 · 11 months ago

  dude i work in retail and you get called boss 9 times a day average and its genuinely the most dysphoria relieving experience in the entire world

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  @tylerscott8015 · 11 months ago

  The &quot;not being seen as queer&quot; thing when you start to pass is so real. If I&apos;m surrounded by straight cis men all day I feel like I&apos;m walking on thin ice, but when I go into queer spaces or meet mutual friends who are also queer I still feel like I&apos;m walking on thin ice. I&apos;ve had well-meaning gay and trans friends in the past try to talk me out of certain aspects of my transition or poke fun at the way I dress or the things I like for being too boring, too masculine, too straight-coded, etc. Like everyone forgot I literally fought for this?

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  @Geminae_NoYes · 11 months ago

  Dude, the awkwardness of random guys walking up to you is so real

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  @hungrytroodontid · 11 months ago

  For me, it hit just before I started taking T. &nbsp;I was sweeping at the store I worked at. &nbsp;Some guy came up to me and started asking me for advice about what card to get his girlfriend after slapping her. &nbsp;<br><br>He wasn’t acting like I was dumb and assumed I had something worth saying and referred to me as boss. &nbsp;I suddenly realised all the times I thought I must be stupid was actually people being sexist. &nbsp;<br><br>And I see the difference too when nowadays people meet me but then learn afterwards I am trans. &nbsp;Especially men. &nbsp;I go from being an equal in their eyes to either being someone they wanna protect or they get a confused boner and want me to perish. &nbsp;<br><br>And it got lonely for a while. &nbsp;LGBT+ used to strike up conversations with me or I could come up to them. &nbsp;But one day, I complemented a couple trans dudes on their opossum and frog bags/outfits. &nbsp;And they looked creeped out. &nbsp;I realised even they thought I was some random cis dude. &nbsp;I do wnat to pass. &nbsp;But after that, I started wearing socks/ a pin/bracelet with trans or rainbow colours. &nbsp;And started acting more gay. &nbsp;And that fixed it.

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  @Zectifin · 7 months ago

  cis guy here. One thing I&apos;ve always noticed and surprised my gf is that when we are at the store as a couple and theres a mom with her kid(s) and the kid says hi or waves or something at us and we smile and wave back, 90% of the time the mom will smile back at us. If I&apos;m out by myself and the same thing happens, I&apos;d say a good 60-80% of the time the mom will just glare at me like I&apos;m a creep.<br><br>I&apos;m curious if any of you trans guys here have noticed a change in reaction to stuff like this after transitioning.

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  @Salty_Sailor64 · 11 months ago

  MTF and not passing 100%, but most people assume I&apos;m a woman on first impressions. I have a job where I somewhat regularly have to wrangle rowdy children and drunks, and it is both funny and sad to me that my reasonably femme polite voice doesn&apos;t get results, so I instinctively switch to my &quot;man&quot; voice, and people start listening (and getting real confused about what to refer to me as).<br><br>I also don&apos;t get men doing &quot;hur hur women amiright?&quot; bits at me anymore, which I don&apos;t miss at all.

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  @ThatJay283 · 11 months ago (edited)

  im a nonbinary trans woman and i envy that T changes your voice. i pass if i don&apos;t talk. men don&apos;t really approach me anymore and i get smiles from women. but when i start speaking comfortably with a group of people, inevitably they&apos;ll start calling me &quot;he&quot;.

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  @brigiddwyer840 · 11 months ago

  Yep. From the other direction: I remember being on E about a year and a half and needing to go into boymode for a flight (san antonio to houston to fort meyers), and I walked onto the plane and there was a young woman in my row, and she visibly flinched when she saw we were sitting together. It was like, &quot;oh, wow, that&apos;s right. Forgot how much that sucked.&quot;

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