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How to Know if You're Transgender: A Different Approach

304K views · Dec 5, 2022 · Nonprofits & Activism

Arthur Rockwell

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@arthur_rockwell · 3 years ago (edited) · pinned
<a href="https://docs.google.com/document/d/1QsEcCjvwC4FWkSDBxf_1Xo2yk3-9g9GFXkUPeKMgBkM/edit?usp=sharing">https://docs.google.com/document/d/1QsEcCjvwC4FWkSDBxf_1Xo2yk3-9g9GFXkUPeKMgBkM/edit?usp=sharing</a> Link to the Google doc where I list out the eight steps! Also ugh the last 15 seconds got cut off somehow?? I was wrapping up by saying, if you go down this journey of reflecting on your future and goals — something will get better. And that this is the reassurance I think many gender-questioning people are looking for when they watch "Am I Trans?" videos. I can't guarantee that you're trans, but I can tell you I am hopeful that one way or another, things will get better ❤️
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@terraexcognita · 3 years ago
A lot of people ask "If you could push a button and change your body forever, would you?" I find it more useful to ask the inverse: "If you woke up as [another gender] and found a button that would turn you back forever, would you push it?"
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@zombiecal42 · 1 year ago (edited)
ive always hated the "look for signs in your childhood" question because i was a VERY girly kid. i loved pink and unicorns and sparkles and all that crap. it took me until i was 15 to start being actually uncomfortable with my femininity
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@d_lynn421 · 3 years ago
Thank you for saying it! Transitioning is a choice. Being trans is not a choice. I didnt choose to be a trans man. I DID choose to transition. I'm trans either way, I'm just much happier living as a man.
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@moaze2401 · 3 years ago
What i dont like about 'childhood' signs is that behaviour doesnt determine gender. How you behave, in any situation has ansolutely nothing to do with your gender. Thats something ive struggled with a lot. By myself, alone, i feel really masculine i dont want my hips and my chest etc. Im 99% sure. But whenever i talk to people i sink into this "female" behaviour im used to. And that makes me dysphoric because i question myself again and again. But than i asked myself: What determines weather you're trans or not? Its not behaviour, neither hobbies. So for me the only 'real' thing was dysphoria. But than i realized, you have to ask the question the other way around. I always wanted to be 100% that im trans, to then tell my family and transition. But im not a cis guy, i was socialized differently so ill never be 100% like a cis guy. And ill never be 100% sure before i try. So the question to ask yourself isnt: Am i really trans?, Its rather: Do i want to have a flat chest, no hips, a beard and a deep voice, and live as a man? For all the physical things, the answer is yes. Do i wanna live as a boy? I dont know, i havnt tried. But i definitly dont want to live as a girl. So if i want all these physical things. It doesnt matter if i am actually trans. Thats just a term we invented anyway. What is important is that i feel good in my body and my identity. If transitioning insures that, than i can say that im indeed trans.
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@danielle7760 · 2 years ago
cuz living as a girl feels fine, but living as a boy, that feels just. right. man i have a dentist appointment in 10 mins and im having a breakdown over this 😭
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@KingRevvi · 3 years ago
I HATE the theory “if you’re questioning if you’re trans, then you are.” I 10000% disagree with that.
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@breadboyism6773 · 3 years ago
"if transitioning makes you feel good and authentic then you're trans" this is such a simple and healthy way of looking at it. i try not to measure my transness by how much pain or dysphoria i'm feeling and let my desire for comfort guide me instead. it's put me in a much healthier state of mind trying to figure everything out
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@gingganggoolie · 3 years ago
One thing I'd add is that when you're trying stuff out, disliking one Trans Thing doesn't mean you shouldn't try other Trans Things you're interested in. For example if you didn't like binding but you're thinking of changing your pronouns, you can just do that. Try stuff out and keep only what you like
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@SephirothJoutsn · 3 years ago
I'm 43 years old and am 7 weeks into Testosterone.  I knew I was born in the wrong body when I was 4, but was repressed and abused by my Mother for it.  I'm Trans Male.
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@Stargirl33318 · 3 years ago
I'm a trans woman who has recently been having some anxiety around transitioning, thank you so much for making this video, I feel much more confident 😊
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@JoKar-jr7fb · 3 years ago
My main problem is that i basically confirmed in my head already that i‘m trans but it‘s just too scary so i keep trying to convince myself that i might just be non binary or a feminine man or something because that way i could hide it if needed because I already know a few people that I would probably lose if I transitioned and idk i grew up in a tiny conservative village I only have very few people around me to begin with, i don‘t have any queer friends or people that could atleast somewhat relate to confide in and so i just feel like i‘d end up extremely lonely and sad, i‘ve never been good at making friends and i feel so akward going somewhere alone i just sit around and stare into my phone or something like that the whole time
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