Psychologist on How to Support an Anxious Partner | Attachment Styles | Secure Relationships

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  @PonktiAddritaBose · 5 months ago

  Being an anxiously attached person, just imagining someone treating me the way you are suggesting here made me cry with feelings of gratitude!

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• KA

  @kabvorka · 1 year ago

  I'm going to be watching this on repeat. It doesn't have nearly enough likes for the quality of content.. thank you for sharing

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• KU

  @KuElisa · 1 year ago

  This kinda made me cry. I'm learning this for myself. Thank you so much.

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• JO

  @joepyro9055 · 10 months ago (edited)

  I can actually be very secure and independent with my hobbies and work, ect, when there is constancy in the love and attention I receive from my Avoidant wife. <br>But when she changes the ways she treats me when life gets hard or busy or whatever it turns my nervous system on. It starts scanning and looking for reassurance. This can make my Avoidant wife act up even more by pulling away or not engaging 100% when she is around me. That triggers the crap out of me. Just love me the same regardless of what life throws. Step in a bit closer when things are hard, don&apos;t pull away. <br>Thank goodness I found attachment theory. &nbsp;It has been truly life changing, understanding each other. <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SPJSCBubLUg&amp;t=169">2:49</a>

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• LI

  @lion43568 · 11 months ago

  I know this video is so much of what we need to hear. I didn’t expect to cry but I did. These are all the things I needed as a kid. Finding this in a partner is such a blessing. But it’s so important finding it in yourself first❤️ I hope everyone heals from this. You’re not alone.

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• EL

  @elsigonzalez2967 · 3 months ago

  Having an anxious attachment is so exhausting for both parties 😔

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• TY

  @tylerdurden636 · 5 months ago

  A transforming video! This video, after watching hundreds, is one of the best messages for an avoidant to better understand their partners anxious attachment. I now feel I have the tools to help my relationship in a way that has been missing for such a long time. When my partner became &nbsp;unregulated, and it was often, &nbsp;I usually ran! Now I am there for her, just as this video suggests, and what a significant difference this has made! Thank you for the clarity you have brought into our lives 🙏

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• JA

  @jaredsmith4919 · 6 months ago

  Where was this when I was emotionally starved and unheard?! Thank you.

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• DO

  @DonnieSlack · 11 months ago

  My chick has this and I am an avoidant dismissive this really helps THANK YOU

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• NB

  @nbrooks4881 · 6 days ago

  It is exhausting being with someone anxiously attached. I’m not avoidant I am pretty secure I just love to have my own space occasionally. Anxious people just act like being away from them is somehow neglectful even if you have work responsibilities or a social life outside of the relationship. It’s exhausting trying to manage a grown woman’s emotions while also trying to maintain your life and choosing between the relationship falling apart or your life falling apart

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• OR

  @Orion33k · 4 months ago

  Wish I seen this before me and my gf broke up. I understand her so much better now

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• SA

  @SagansWar · 1 year ago

  This is so brilliant and so helpful. As someone who falls into the category of Anxious Attachment with someone who is Avoidance Attachment, this describes me pretty well and I hope I can get my partner to watch this to better understand me. Thank you so much for making and sharing these videos!

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