Why Almost All Avoidants Return After Rejecting You

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• SH

  @ShadowSnake141 · 2 years ago (edited)

  People. Why do you want someone back who can't appreciate you or work on problems with healthy communication and boundaries like a mature adult? Don't try to get them back, the future is brighter if you put in the work. If you don't, you're hurting yourself. I've been there.

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• RE

  @RetroRomanceStudio-1111 · 2 years ago

  Remember who they were and how badly they treated you when their mask slipped off and when they deactivated: the meanness, the coldness and stonewalling, the discard, the slowly chipping at your ego, the fact that they saw and knew you were in immense pain and confusion by their actions and didn't care, the way they self-soothed with new partners and alcohol and friends and their exs while you reached out again and again and all but begged to see them again and just resolve things in a loving way.... yeah, emotionally remember all that and what they put you through, and see if your dear soul and inner child would ever want to be near that toxic abuse again or if even logically such a person could ever make for a good and happy partner.

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• BA

  @bar9849 · 2 years ago

  In the end, If you have to force it, it's not your size

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• CA

  @CasaDeKaz · 2 years ago

  When I finally started understanding the mechanics of my relationship, and breakup, with a “vulnerable narcissist”, I viewed my urge to reunite as simply a withdrawal symptom from a toxic drug. Getting back together was more to make the pain temporarily go away, than about getting this person back because they were so amazing and good for me to have in my life. <br>I always felt like shit about myself when I was around them, but I kept chasing that “first high” feeling from the love bombing days. &nbsp;<br>I don’t miss them - I miss the feelings, which were based on the false presentation they gave of themselves.

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• RO

  @rosemary2483 · 2 years ago

  Rejection is redirection to something better. Dont try to get them back !

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• LU

  @luvaubs · 1 year ago

  I think it’s less about me wanting them back and more about me wanting them to want me so I can feel like I have my power back

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• IP

  @ipdharwad · 2 years ago

  A person who rejected you, if allowed to get back, will hurt you again. Again and again until you regret taking him/her back. It&apos;s not worth the time and pain.

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• BZ

  @Bzpwns · 2 years ago (edited)

  Putting up with any form of disrespect is garbage.

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• RA

  @RainbowBright8888 · 2 years ago

  I remember you posting about the woman who got her ex back and she did ALL the things that made him want her again. What&apos;s wrong with that is that he wasn&apos;t coming back because he actually wanted to be with her. He came back out of fear of losing her coming from a place of desperation, jealously and ego. That&apos;s a recipe for disaster...esp if he&apos;s unhealed.

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• DA

  @Damdifino1984 · 2 years ago

  They can’t come back when you block them. They can’t come back when you disappear. Don’t let them even try.

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• BU

  @bunnygirl3357 · 2 years ago

  I truly don&apos;t want him back. I ve come to terms finally that this is not going to work

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• MI

  @mil3276 · 1 year ago

  My experience is usually avoidants force you to do the breaking up. They don’t have the balls to do it and deep down don’t want you to leave.

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