What Avoidants Hope For When You Go No Contact

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• KL

  @klarissa._z · 2 years ago

  Just like their name 'Avoidants' , avoid them at all costs. Its not your responsibilty to deal with their trauma.

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• JU

  @Juba80611 · 2 years ago

  As much as you love them and care about them. They end up breaking you in pieces and disregard you like you meant nothing to them. Whats sadder? Is they go back chasing emotionally unavailable people.

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• TA

  @taylorbee4010 · 2 years ago

  From someone who has loved of one these people dearly<br>Don’t be afraid to take the cloak off. We don’t wanna love a facade. We want to love YOU.

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• HA

  @hannahkioko6770 · 2 years ago (edited)

  This is the best explanation of what an avoidant is. I say &apos;best&apos; because it clearly shows that it has NOTHING to do with the partner, and there is NOTHING the partner can do to make it better.

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• WA

  @waterlilynymph · 2 years ago (edited)

  I loved my avoidant for what was underneath the magician’s outfit. &nbsp;But I can walk away now, knowing that I tried my best to show him the love he may never had have. <br><br>I am rewarded with a new love in the form of a man who is more secure and does not have the same guards up. <br><br>After my advoidant pulled me close and then pushed me away so many times for three years during a long distance romance, I can finally let go with love. His unhealed self is just not what I need to be happy. I did try, and I can sleep peacefully knowing that I tried to love a tragic character like the advoidant magician.

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• LA

  @laceyloops · 2 years ago

  I felt like he was wearing a mask and I told him to take it off because he doesn&apos;t need one with me. He broke up with me two days later. That&apos;s where he drew the line 😂

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• MR

  @mr.darlingdopamine9551 · 2 years ago

  This video broke my heart even more than it already was broken. I want to help her heal these wounds but it is impossible. She pushed me away just at the peak of our relationship. I fear we may forever remain strangers now, but it brings me comfort knowing that she might sometimes reminisce on the beautiful once in-a-lifetime love we shared :,(

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• KA

  @kayrivera9022 · 1 year ago

  Unpopular opinion: as an anxiously attached person it would do you well to try to understand an avoidant attachment person. Then you see the full picture of the anxious /avoidant dance. That the two, no matter what it looks like on the surface, are very hurt individuals. But the good news is both can heal. You just can’t do the healing for them. They must want to heal for themselves first &amp; foremost. Seeing the bigger picture gives you a better chance of developing a secure attachment style. <br><br>Start seeing people as souls, it helps. 😉

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• AN

  @anothercat9600 · 2 years ago (edited)

  &quot;I do ALL relationship work, or YOU do all relationship work&quot; <br>Avoidants take roles, they can&apos;t share with an equal partner. First they court, but as soon as the other person starts helping out a bit in the courtship, the avoidant stops everything, and lets the other person do exactly all emotional work.

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• BU

  @bunnybooluvsu2 · 1 year ago

  Life&apos;s too short. Avoid avoidants.

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• YU

  @yuno-kii · 1 year ago (edited)

  I came here to deal with an avoidant. Instead found out I&apos;m the avoidant.

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• ST

  @StaceyShaf · 2 years ago

  I don’t understand why anyone would keep trying to repair things with an avoidant. It seems like a constant struggle and an inevitable feeling of pain &amp; defeat.

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