Healed Avoidant Describes The Exact Moment Avoidants Decide to Change

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• UN

  @understandablepodcast · 3 months ago · pinned

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• DD

  @dds7718 · 3 months ago

  My opinion is that you can&apos;t say your standards are not met if you don&apos;t communicate them at all and expect the other to read your mind for them.

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• ME

  @MegaDrummerdude13 · 3 months ago

  I applaud you for your honesty but I won&apos;t say what I&apos;m really thinking. Must say, it&apos;s incredibly Fd up that avoidants can have a great connection, sabotage it, go away and realise &quot;Oh I was the problem, I ruined a good thing, let me work on that&quot; then turn around and decide yeah nah &quot;I won&apos;t go back to that ex loved me and would have done anything for me, I want something shiny and new that I haven&apos;t yet scuffed or dropped&quot;

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  @123eternal_eagle · 3 months ago

  I am very glad someone is making videos from the avoidant perspective. It is very rare to see on YouTube. As an avoidant on his healing journey myself, I am very to glad to find this channel . It is helping me very much. I would appreciate if you make videos on the issue of avoidant high standards and flaw zoom , how to get out of this issues more in detail. Love your videos ❤

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• EL

  @elgeebee5250 · 3 months ago

  He could never just say ‘hey I need a break but I’m not leaving I like you’ very simple. I had to overly try and and it was cruel

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• AM

  @amylocke1364 · 2 weeks ago

  This is exactly what I’m looking for. I’m realizing I’m avoidant &amp; sometimes quite disorganized. I seem to only find videos of people talking ABOUT the avoidant. Instead of from the avoidant point of view &amp; how we can fix ours &amp; repair with our ex.

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• DI

  @dianablanke2543 · 3 months ago

  Now I think I understand what my ex was going through. I thought he was allergic to me.<br>Or was repulsed by me. <br>Thank you for this video.

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• EL

  @elgeebee5250 · 3 months ago

  I did that the I take you as you are - but he avoided me

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• JU

  @julias1986 · 1 month ago (edited)

  Your ex who supported you but was also honest about her own pain was the key to your healing. If EVERYONE educated themselves on attachment styles/theory, imagine how many more people could heal and have amazing, beautiful, healthy relationships, not just with others but also, most importantly, with THEMSELVES! ❤<br><br>I appreciate and respect your honesty and vulnerability Sir.

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• JO

  @Joisu121 · 3 months ago

  Thank you very much. &nbsp;My ex broke up with me by text but for a &nbsp;few months before i think he was experiencing what you are describing. &nbsp;I was so devastated. My ex never explained the way you did. &nbsp;But he did suddenly leave my house when things were going well and just said he was stressed.... from work. He always said he was stressed from work and so needed to get away from me but i felt like it was &nbsp;me. At the end he said he needed time for himself due to work. &nbsp;Nothing made sense to me. &nbsp;I am more at peace now. &nbsp;Thank you for explaining. &nbsp;It helps me have forgiveness for him and i wish him well. Good job to you for all your internal work and honesty

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• SL

  @sldX · 1 month ago

  I feel like some avoidants did find the person they truly loved. These people should absolutely go back and do whatever it takes to repair instead of finding someone new they can start over with because its easier.

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• VA

  @valentine-p2r · 3 months ago

  As an avoidant you talk a lot about your needs. How do you feel about fulfilling your partners needs. This is something you rarely hear any avoidant talking about. Thanks

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