How to Make Them CHASE YOU Without “Playing It Cool”

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  @idkg00gle1t · 3 years ago

  Great message for both genders! Not to speak for all men, but it's a huge turn off when women do not show interest. I had to let this girl go not long after I asked her out because she wasn't showing enough interest. The energy and effort was one sided. This "power" ideology is such bs in my opinion. Or "playing it cool" for guys is stupid too. You know what's attractive and cool? Being a genuine, down to earth person that's not afraid to show your true self to anyone.

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  @jvz2482 · 3 years ago

  I spilled my guts to my ex but was rejected. I was just happy to be authentic and now I can let him go. Never felt more myself.

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  @Sarina460 · 3 years ago

  the problem with "playing it cool" is also that if you happen to date someone with an avoidand attachment style you're playing right into their cards. They think you don't want/need that much closeness either and you don't care if they disappear for days in a row while you're quietly suffering, not saying anything because you try to play it cool. I had to learn this the hard way and after this experience, the popular book "attached" goes deeper into this topic and it was such an eye opener for me. I learned that it's perfectly normal to wish for closeness/ a relationship and it doesn't make you needy. So from now on I will go on dates with the same approach as you recommend in this video. Not playing games, showing in baby steps if I'm interested and if they don't reciprocate, move on.

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  @morganwhite2176 · 2 years ago

  If you’re with someone and you have so much to worry about with them, they are the wrong one.

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  @Roj0307 · 3 years ago (edited)

  This is a refreshing video.<br>So much dating advice is based on hiding your feelings to keep your power. <br>The paradox is that dating advice aimed at men advises them exactly the same - &quot;let the woman do the 90% of the pursuing, if they don&apos;t it means they never cared anyway, so move on to someone else. &quot;<br>When both genders are hearing this we end up with a convoluted game of courtship where everyone loses. No point keeping all the power if it means living with cats till you die.

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  @DeadCat-42 · 2 years ago

  if a women doesn&apos;t express attraction to me, I&apos;m not attracted to her. <br><br>Playing hard to want is the biggest red flag there is.<br><br>If I&apos;m not option one, I&apos;m not an option.

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  @YuyiLeal · 3 years ago

  Being authentic - showing ourselves as we are, that really gets us close to those that are a true match!

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  @Concetta20 · 1 year ago

  The fact that interest can fluctuate is very helpful and that’s ok. You don’t need to be analyzing every fluctuation. Just like emotional health.

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  @felixthecat4584 · 3 years ago

  When a guy &quot;tries too hard&quot; its called needy or clingy. <br>I really wish we could all just be honest with ourselves and each other.

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  @LynneJennings-u8l · 2 years ago

  Nobody’s fault if it doesn’t work out, we just move on.

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  @vanessadevries1356 · 3 years ago

  This was so timely for me. Point 4. “Be afraid of keeping someone who isn’t a match for us around”(<a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NXhjGoiMojs&amp;t=580">9:40</a>) and being grounded knowing you are enough and everything in your life will be ok in the end whether this person is in or out of you life are foundational to quality of life.

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  @CS.94 · 3 years ago

  Matthew, I hope you realize how many guys are sharing these videos with each other. Everything in your videos resonates with us, too. Been sharing these with friends for weeks now. This is the type of dating advice and influence guys need: advice that helps you develop self-respect while maintaining respect for others

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