The Couples Expert: Why Gay Relationships Are So Hard

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• JO

  @jondeanallout · 1 year ago (edited) · pinned

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• SH

  @shawn1428 · 10 months ago (edited)

  I was so lucky to find my husband when I did at 20 years old. We dated for 10 years then got married, we were together for 20 years until he died of Glioblastoma brain cancer at 42 three and a half years ago. We never had many gay friends, we didn't go to bars much, we did in our 20's but it was mostly straight bars, we were not open we were monogamous. We came out together after 3 years of dating and moved in together. I met him in a small town through a mutual friend back in 2001, the chances were so low to actually find him but I did. I am forever grateful that I had him even though I can't make peace that he died of one of the most terrible diseases to die from at only 42. He was my soul mate, I knew when I met him we would be together. Listening to this really tells me how rare what we had was.

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• KE

  @kenschadegg9932 · 1 year ago

  Probably the best discussion of gay relationships available today. Thank you.

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• BR

  @bradboney1374 · 1 year ago

  I’ve watched hundreds of videos about gay relationships from well intentioned guys who mostly spout bs. This is not that. Finally someone who knows what they’re talking about and approaches the topic from a realistic perspective. This should go to the top of everyone’s feed.

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• CH

  @cherryred6082 · 1 year ago

  Not having a romantic partner doesn't mean you're lonely. Not everyone wants to be in a relationship. Some people can be happy on their own. I'd argue that all people should be happy on their own.

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• RA

  @raythomas4812 · 1 year ago

  I came out on my 40th Birthday (62 now ), Been with my Partner for 28 years, Married for 7 , my first Boyfriend . It's been, and still is challenging at times, but why it's still worthwhile I won't ever give up  on it. Love your Channel by the way

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• RA

  @RaymondTubojan · 9 months ago

  I'm learning a lot in this video. I am so scared to get hurt or rejected. I'm even scared of good conversation because I will think that tomorrow won't be the same. Maybe it's trauma haunting me.

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• TO

  @torontokid97 · 1 year ago

  This is so good, is straightforward not wishy-washy or overly buzzwordy. Better than 90% of the relationship and therapy videos I've watched on youtube. Thank you.

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• WM

  @wmaw222 · 3 months ago

  Open relationships vs monogamous boils down to the value a person puts on sexual intimacy. Its either a bodily reaction like an itch you feel you need to scratch when you feel the urge, or something your partner can fulfil. Then theres FOMO etc.

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• MM

  @mmalik · 1 year ago

  Found myself reflecting on the contents of your podcast. Married my partner on our 20th anniversary, 7 years ago… we’ve had the best and worst of each other but I think what keeps us together is just the desire to be with each other. No straightforward answers to anything except, the idea that one more day is one day less that we have and in the end, one of us will be heartbroken. We cook for each other and never go to bed hungry.

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• BI

  @bielefeld123 · 6 months ago

  If you are side or asexual, you are valid as well❤

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• RO

  @RobertDani · 1 year ago

  Unfortunately a lot of guys overcomplicate things. Finding a partner and maintaining a long term relationship should be the easiest thing if two people undeniably love each other.

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