The Real Reason It Is So Hard to Break a Trauma Bond

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  @jenomi72 · 8 years ago

  Yes.  This definitely feels like a drug addiction.   Even when I'm screaming inside my head.  Trying to remind myself how bad it makes me feel. I still want to hear him be nice to me one more time fully knowing it won't last.

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• RT

  @rt2244 · 4 years ago

  “You built up a tolerance for abuse.” -😣 you explained exactly how I have felt for years but couldn’t explain and hid it.

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• VI

  @vivalospepes1402 · 7 years ago

  Took me 34 years to understand. Unbelievable trust your gut it never lies to you

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• RA

  @rashideighttwo9320 · 7 years ago

  Its hard to admit but shes right ...its hard to accept who the person really is your always looking for them to show you love and affection like they did at the beginning

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• ME

  @melissajeffree8410 · 6 years ago

  Argh the worst is the relationships you lose because people got tired of you going back or making excuses for the person who is litterally breaking you apart. So even when you leave the relationship, you are often alone and tend to go back just to have someone.

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• CD

  @cd9352 · 6 years ago

  “You have to decide that you want to be happy.” Yes. It’s so hard at first when you leave. But once you leave, you’ll feel that weight lift off your shoulders.

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• LI

  @lindah.804 · 8 years ago

  I hope people see this before they have spent as many years in it as I have. Now he is disabled, and any chance of me having a different life are gone. Please people, follow this advice while you are young enough to enjoy some happiness, and freedom in your life.

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• YE

  @yesreneau · 5 years ago

  She’s like the cool aunt you want to call when you have boy problems.

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• GO

  @GoldhartStudio · 7 years ago (edited)

  People do not leave a bad situation, because they are afraid that when they are out, it will be even worse. Especially when somebody depends financially.

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• SH

  @shelleyboggs · 2 years ago

  When dealing with narcissism, you should know that it’s not personal. “It isn’t personal” is one of those cliches used to cushion all kinds of bad actions taken by people who need an out for being immoral, but in this case it actually gets near the truth. Narcissists don’t know how to love or be a friend; they can’t afford to spare the energy to learn, because they’re always in a state of high emergency, cataloging potential threats and redoubling their defenses. When they claim to love you, it means nothing. <br><br>They may even think they mean it, but they don’t understand the concept - they can’t feel it. They never attach to you or anyone else. Other people are paper cut-outs to the narcissist, like those cardboard figures of celebrities you pose next to for a selfie. Narcissist value their own children only as mirrors of themselves. When they destabilize you or attack you, it means nothing. They are stuck in an endless conversation with themselves, in which you are an inanimate object, to be assigned their own faults and used as a surrogate punching bag for their hatred of themselves. <br><br>When they toss you out, it’s no more meaningful than a junkie tossing away a needle; when they try to reel you back in, it only means that they tired of the new drug and need a hit of the old. None of this is personal. They’re too terrified to have personal relationships, opting instead for extraction of admiration from a subservient partner whose range of action they strictly constrain. This is not personal. None of it. The narcissist does not know who you are - it doesn’t know how to know other people. Like the vampire or the chainsaw-wielding creature in the horror film, it’s from another world, bereft of the concept of human connection. <br><br>Moreover, People wonder why they end up hurt, seriously hurt, and even killed for their own actions. &nbsp;Cheating is a choice and there’s simply a lot of ignorance in the process.... &nbsp;Thank you so much for helping me out Metaspyhub@gmail. com. Your advice and services helped me so much. You are a lifesaver !!! The information you gave me about my cheating partner when you gave me access to his phone was everything I needed to get,.. thank you very much..

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• CR

  @CR-qb6ym · 5 years ago (edited)

  I just realised that i fell in love with someone that doesen&apos;t exist. I made an image of a man in my head and now seeing him how he truly is, scares me because i don&apos;t know that person. It just feels like i am talking with a different person.

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• KA

  @karenjkampskamps5208 · 6 years ago

  I set boundaries with him when we first met, but I &nbsp;became weak and he walked all over them because I let him

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