Historian on what surprised her in the final moments after her child's death

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  @CarolJohnson-xi8kx · 1 year ago

  Oh my, this podcast helped me so much. My experience was not losing a child, but losing my expectations for my only son who was born severely brain damaged from inadequate oxygen at birth. I thought the pain would kill me and then I thought the anger would never leave me. He's now 42 years old and still lives with us. And I am so grateful he's my son. He has made me a better person. Please make no mistake, I am not wish this on anyone. And yet I love him so.

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  @SunMind6250 · 1 year ago

  My son was 4 when he died of a childhood cancer. Such a fun little guy, full of life.  What helped me was faith and decades of time.  He helps me to this day. He, along with my parents and grandparents. If I really need help in a serious situation, I pray to them and I get the help I need. I think they are closer than we realize, they have a lot of influence, and are quite willing to assist us. Our reunion will be fantastic!

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  @eftsoulpath333 · 1 year ago

  Anderson, I love your focus on Grief. It is so desperately needed. People act like we're not going to die. My daughter's death at two years old was life-changing for me. On the other side of Grief was ecstasy. I am deeply grateful for having the privilege of having her in my life. Keep up your great work. Life needs you!

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• CO

  @conniedean3787 · 1 year ago

  Grief is the price we pay for love.

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• AN

  @annberrios9759 · 1 year ago

  I was fortunate enough to have Dr. Pagels as a Professor not once but twice.  She was as captivating at 28 (when she first taught me) as she is now.  She has not changed.

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• OL

  @oliviacasino8888 · 1 year ago

  Anderson, I met myself in the upstairs hall one night when I was in my 60’s. There she was, this younger me and we knew each other instantly. A great forgiveness came over the older me for that young mother who was feeling her way along as she grew with the roll of mothering. I previously had harsh words for her and her mistakes, but in that moment I had nothing but pure love and compassion and we have been friends ever since. I know it was me I encountered and forgiveness has brought us together in one physical form once and for all. That night I shall never forget. I am now 84.

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• GA

  @gailwood2734 · 1 year ago

  My heart is broken for any parent who loses a child. Elaine was so articulate and Anderson gave her the opportunity to speak to us all 💔🙏

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• AL

  @alexandrakarl2487 · 1 year ago

  Two bright minds and hearts learning from each other, just beautiful.

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• DR

  @Dryzark · 1 year ago

  Thank you both for this.<br><br>After having lost my fiancée to suicide, I find a sense of comfort from speaking with &amp; hearing from others who have experienced a very difficult loss.

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  @lilms565 · 1 year ago

  I was there when my dad died, the only one in the room… I have said the exact same thing about it: it was a privilege, it was an honor, it was one of the most important things I had ever done. People often look at you like you’re insane when you say those things. It helped me to hear you say it. Ty.

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• CA

  @cathypreston1095 · 1 year ago

  Thank you Anderson. &nbsp;We are all with you my friend.

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• BA

  @barbaraacosta7365 · 1 year ago

  Your conversation with Dr. Pagels was a gift. Thank you.

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