System Fails to Identify Narcissism in Time | Seung-Hui Cho Case Analysis

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  @ButterBallTheOpossum · 4 years ago

  I think his roommates deserve a lot of credit. It seems like they tried hard to make him feel included and cared about despite his bizarre behavior. They sound like good guys.

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• BJ

  @bjkarana · 4 years ago (edited)

  I was on campus that day, walking back from a molecular biology class when all of a sudden police vehicles started coming in from every direction.  I was quite close to where the second attack occurred (Norris Hall) when an officer said there was an shooter on the loose and we started running.  The rest of what I saw and heard is still extremely hard to put into words so I'll leave it there, but for me personally, a piece of my youthful spark left me forever.  Getting over the acute trauma of an event like that is not the hardest part; you attend wakes, funerals, and memorial services while being mostly numb and detached, but the long term is where I struggled the most because the world necessarily moves on while myself and others were still searching for the reasons why the tragedy happened in the first place.  After a few years, I realized there will never be "closure", it just is, and I gave myself permission to move on.  The lack of closure for the survivors is the first thing I think about whenever these mass shootings occur, but you get out of bed the next day and just keep going.

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• MR

  @mritzs5142 · 4 years ago

  The fact that he chained the doors shut is chilling. That takes a lot of rage, less impulse ,more planning , the more hate, the more methodical   Thanks Dr Grande

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• GE

  @GetMeThere1 · 4 years ago

  How can psychologists assert that someone is "not a danger" when they can't even meaningfully communicate with that person?

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• HE

  @hernandezb2178 · 4 years ago

  He was terrible news since the beginning, I’m scratching my head about how he was able to get guns even with all the mental health history and bizarre behavior.

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• DA

  @Danaelisefilms · 4 years ago

  I suffered from selective mutism from age 2 to 15. The social anxiety and  fear of communicating with people were crippling. At the same time I desired human connection and relationships. When I was very young in the 80’s selective mutism was described as a condition where people don’t want to talk. It wasn’t until 2004 that more research was done and confirmed that there was no lack of desiring to communicate, it was fear and anxiety holding the person prisoner. In elementary school and junior high, teachers and kids and my own parents would humiliate me and demand I speak, making a huge embarrassing scene. My throat and body paralysis did not let me. I grew up thinking I was defective and felt immense shame. I am still healing and growing. It makes me sad that healing never came for Cho but of course, I feel more deep sadness for the victims and their loved ones.

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• JA

  @jamaaldavis6243 · 4 years ago

  <b>YOU DID IT!!!!</b> I had been asking you to cover this case for ages!!! Dr. Grande, you’re the best!

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• AE

  @AEL.3 · 4 years ago

  Dear Dr. Grande, thanks for bringing light to this case. It’s true that in my culture, Korean or Korean American, mental health issues are seldom discussed because they are associated with great shame. It is not acceptable to have any sort of mental illness occur in the family bloodline. It is more acceptable to cover up or deny these kinds of problems. Hopefully education and awareness will help families struggling with mental health issues of Korean descent.

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• CO

  @comeflynextome94 · 4 years ago

  I was in middle school when this happened. My gym teacher&apos;s daughter attended VA Tech. She and her dorm-mate had an argument the morning of the 16th, so she decided to skip class because she was too upset. Cho opened fire on the class she skipped, and the chair she always sat in was penetrated by bullets. It hit WAY too close to home.

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• HE

  @hectorg362 · 4 years ago (edited)

  This may sound weird but Cho was someone I can relate to a lot, minus the violence part of course. My childhood/teen years was similar to his. I never spoke to anyone, was socially anxious and withdrawn, and never had much friends. High school was the toughest for me because I never had anyone to sit with during lunch and basically just hang out on my own in the restrooms. It was very demoralizing. I also started to develop this weird behavior were I would imagine myself having conversations with people around me and we would literally smile and laugh along with their jokes in real life. it was weird but I didn&apos;t notice my behavior at the time and I didn&apos;t noticed people were aware of it. I realized later on that this was a weird way i developed as a way to cope with the lack of social interaction.<br><br>I did eventually became friends with some people during my senior year but they were awful friends. They were rude and obnoxious and I thought they were cool, so I started acting like them. i didn&apos;t realize it but that was a reason why no one like me because I became rude. I didn&apos;t notice this up until a few years later.<br><br>College came around and the same thing happen, still didn&apos;t feel like I belong anywhere not did I enjoy school only plus side is that being alone was considered ok. No one judged you if you ate or sat by yourself. I&apos;m currently 26 now and I still feel like my problem has drastically held me back in life. I really envy people with decent social skills and wish my parents/teachers would&apos;ve pushed me into getting the help that I needed at a young age and maybe I wouln&apos;t fee like I wasted half my life. So parents, please understand that social skills are really important for your child.

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• YI

  @yigitturann · 7 months ago

  The problem with this guy was the same problem as Adam Lanza<br><br><br>He was very self aware of his autism.<br><br>He wanted to end his bullying/suffering.

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• AB

  @abeltesfaye_ · 4 years ago

  So he had a history of disturbing behavior yet was still able to access guns? I&apos;m appalled yet completely unsurprised.

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