The Ways You Push People Away Without Even Realizing It

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• RO

  @RoadRunnergarage8570 · 1 year ago

  My problem is that i cannot trust so I just isolate.. more comfortable for me..

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• RG

  @rg1whiteywins598 · 1 year ago

  I haven't met anyone worth connecting with in many years.

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• TO

  @tobydandelion · 1 year ago (edited)

  It's better for us if unhealthy people don't stay in our lives. Holding boundaries is so important. If someone shows you they aren't going to change soon, believe them, and then go find folks who've already done the work. 💜

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• CL

  @clay883 · 1 year ago (edited)

  Simple solution, don't interact, or limit interactions with people you're not compatible with. Focus on people you care about without being needy and make sure your energy is being reciprocated.

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• JO

  @joannaswift2284 · 1 year ago

  I also think being too nice, saying or doing what you think people want to hear and need pushes them away.

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• NA

  @NadoCrowFriend · 1 year ago

  I’ve learned that being ( or letting people know you feel) very self reliant , can be off putting. People have told me they feel I “don’t need them” because I do everything for myself & extremely rarely ask for help. ( I was taught that women need to be self sufficient- but this often back fired in my life)

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• RE

  @ReincarnatedStargazer · 1 year ago (edited)

  I feel like I’m living in an upside-down world. I connect more with a village way of relating to people - the kind of deep, intentional connections I knew growing up in a small rural community, where social currency mattered more than hustle and grind. I&apos;m away from home and it seems the people I&apos;ve tried to connect with are inundated with an endless calendar of events, or caught up in competing social hierarchies in a small pond, like much of what is happening in social media culture. The older I get, the more I realize my people live at a slower pace, rooted in intentional and deeper connections. &nbsp;An expectation to make real connections in a culture of quick, surface-level interactions feels hollow, almost like gaslighting. <br><br>I&apos;ve managed to find two good friends, along with gardening, that is enough.

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• RU

  @rubychurch3466 · 1 year ago

  I ended a friendship 2 days ago. &nbsp;She manipulated and controlled me incessantly. &nbsp; Got to the point where I was cringing when I knew we were to catch up. &nbsp;Sit here, do this, talk to that person, we’re her mantras. &nbsp;Today I feel free as a bird. &nbsp;Husband said golly you’ve changed!

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• EL

  @ElementallyFunMar · 1 year ago

  The over sharing/monologuing is also a neurodivergent trait… but I recognize I do it, regardless of childhood trauma/role models—I want to change it and break the patterns.

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• AR

  @ArtistGayleenTaylor · 1 year ago

  I ghosted my best friends before, and still do it a bit now. It&apos;s self hurt for sure. I still occasionally self sabotage still as well. But not nearly the way I used to. I&apos;ve hurt so many people over the years, especially myself. But I&apos;m starting to realize that I can be better to myself, which is better for others.

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• UN

  @UnholyHexer · 1 year ago

  Wow this video really struck a cord with me. Being someone who was adopted I have severe abandonment issues. I tend to not be able to keep relationships for too long or I just seclude myself as to not get hurt again. What I recieved from this video is that you don&apos;t have to be stuck in the suffering of past trauma. You can make different choices that can lead to happiness and healing. Thank you so much.

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• MA

  @Mallowolf · 1 year ago

  I recognise things I’ve done<br>AND I recognise things others have done to me. Thank you for laying everything out so clearly.

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