Truth About Dating in Korea: Birthrates, Jealousy, Gender Dynamics I@KPCDavidKim

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  @KPCDavidKim · 2 years ago · pinned

  Thank you for having me on the pod! It was so fun :) I’m glad I could share some Korean culture🙏👍🇰🇷

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• OH

  @ohjinmyoung7350 · 2 years ago (edited)

  I am an old lady who has dated men all over the world. It doesn't matter where a person comes from. If they love you intensely they will cater to your needs. And yes, Korean men will treat you like the gals in K dramas. But so will Norwegian, Mexican,Russian men. Provided you want that treatment and they love you. If a guy is disappointing, move on. If no guy treats you the way you want, so what. You should be fine on your own.

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• AP

  @aprilsky8474 · 2 years ago

  Like he said, K Dramas are mostly written by women so the fantasy is completely just that. Please don't think all Korean men step out of K Drama world.

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• GL

  @glendam1974 · 1 year ago

  And that’s why I’m single. I don’t believe in sex right off the bat, sex is not about the act is an act that involves body and spirit , you connect and also tie your soul.  There is no way I would sleep around.   And I’m fine without it .

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• FA

  @FarmhouseDesigns · 2 years ago (edited)

  I’m an American woman married to a Korean man. &nbsp;Much of this on the topic of dating/relationships is so true. &nbsp;And it gets even more interesting in the comments lol. &nbsp;Especially the comments about love bombing in the beginning of the relationship and then it quickly disappearing and breaking up. &nbsp;And then another comment from an older Korean woman saying that any man, Korean or not, would crawl across broken glass to see the woman they love. &nbsp;I think it is common that there is a lot of effort in the beginning (love bombing) and then that man either falls in love with you or he doesn’t. &nbsp;In my case he definitely love bombed me when we started dating, he then fell in love with me, now we are married and he’s still love bombing me 😂 of course there are a lot of deep aspects of how to keep that level of effort going. &nbsp;Unfortunately I think the secret to that has become an unpopular opinion amongst women at this point 😕<br><br>I would also like to speak on the texting topic. &nbsp;As an American I’m very low maintenance when it comes to frequency of contact. &nbsp;He’s the opposite. &nbsp;For him it isn’t about the jealousy/cheating issue. &nbsp;For him, talking to me makes him happy, he just genuinely enjoys it more than other things so even if he wakes up in the middle of the night he will call me instead of going back to sleep immediately. &nbsp;Sadly, because my culture is different there have been times when I have not contacted him in an effort to respect his time and space so he wouldn’t feel smothered and he perceived those times as “I wasn’t thinking about him/I didn’t miss him/I don’t enjoy talking to him” ☹️ &nbsp;<br><br>Obviously people are affected by their own cultures quite a bit and you can learn more about a person by learning about their culture but as it was stated in the video multiple times, not everyone from the same culture are the same. &nbsp;Focus more on getting to know the PERSON without having a list of expectations ♥️

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• SH

  @shay2013OT7 · 2 years ago

  I love David’s way of being open to seeing both sides of a situation.

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• KD

  @kdramaoma · 1 year ago

  Ok. I met my korean hubby in US in 1995. Never saw a kdrama in my life at that point. He def &quot;love bombed&quot; me and when he wanted me, at age 30, to take what we call a Piggy Back ride, I accused him of being a pervert 😂😂😂 <br>Fast forward to City Hunter, (Lee Min Ho) my first kdrama that was not a historical k drama 😂 and then Coffee Prince etc. When I saw kdrama where guy gives the girl a piggy back ride I was like WHAT?!?! My hubby was never being a pervert!!! Lol. I am still treated as queen by my man since 1995. He has patience and long suffering when I am difficult, but I do try my best. I always tell him he should have married korean woman &nbsp;😂. He&apos;s the best and he cooks me delicious korean food too. I really am blessed. 🎉

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• HI

  @hinatamercury · 1 year ago (edited)

  intimacy on the first date is such a risky behavior, condoms don&apos;t always work and diseases can still spread not to mention the risk of unplanned pregnancy<br><br>the double standards is sad too. Women with many body count are considered loose/she belongs in the street while men with equal body count or more won&apos;t receive any negative label and probably even praised for having conquered many<br><br>the constant texting speaks of insecurities and lack of trust. If cheating is common, then I&apos;m not surprised that there is lack of trust and an obsessive behavior to monitor a partner

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• JA

  @janicebetos7736 · 2 years ago

  I think David has way more wider perspective granting that he grew up in the US. Compared to korean that is born and raised in Korea. It is to his advantage. I love his perspective.

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• BL

  @blancaalves8250 · 2 years ago

  I’m a little sad that SK is becoming more westernized as far as dating is concerned. I live in the U.S. and feel we’ve lost a lot of the tenderness and sweetness of romance. When affection becomes so easy that it is shared with virtual strangers, it becomes unimportant and ordinary. I miss the thrill of having someone who cares about you take your hand for the first time and knowing that it’s the expression of an emotion rather than just an expectation. We’re selling ourselves short, and missing out on the depth and true meaning of touch. It’s almost like becoming desensitized. I’d say it’s quite a loss, and yearn “the good old days”.

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  @Mel-jl8dt · 2 years ago

  The love bombing part is very true. Its like they get infatuated really quickly and then it dies down just as fast until they either ghost you or break up. If you meet someone whos not like that then you have to fear the parents because most won&apos;t stand up to them and will break up. <br>Aside from that if youre a foreigner youre a bucket list type of thing, not necessarily a long term option. Or you end up being their english teacher if you dont speak korean (speaking korean doesn&apos;t make a difference really). Anyway not everyone is like that but a huuuuge majority which leads to you being weary of everyone

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  @NoraLinda26 · 2 years ago (edited)

  Speaking as a young woman, born and raised in the USA, In the case of dating, Personally the slow-burn romance offers a richer, more engaging experience, particularly when compared to the more immediate gratification seen in fast-paced dating narratives. &nbsp;In contrast, the fast-paced dating narratives often bypass the gradual buildup in favor of immediate physical attraction and intimacy. While this approach can be thrilling in the short term, it frequently sacrifices the emotional depth that makes a relationship truly compelling.<br><br>As for texting, In my view, constant texting in a relationship can diminish the sense of anticipation and longing that often strengthens the bond between partners. I believe that some distance and time apart can make our moments together more meaningful, as absence truly makes the heart grow fonder. It allows us to appreciate each other&apos;s presence even more when we reconnect, fostering a deeper connection.

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