The Psychology of Kink

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• AP

  @aprilshadows · 2 years ago

  Y'all had great chemistry with that amish fella!

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• CR

  @crabdoc · 6 months ago

  It's also worth noting that for many many people kink isn't even necessarily sexual in nature- it's stimulation play, dynamic play, I will likely never be comfortable enough to participate in sex, but kink allows me to experience intimacy with my partners regardless.

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• JU

  @jules2438 · 1 year ago

  Really? You talked about sexual networking and none of you made the pun of KinkedIn?

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• EO

  @Eowyn7000 · 1 year ago

  I am really glad you said that all sex is fantasy, because it was depressing me to have a dawning awareness of how much of sexual attraction was fantasy, because I was writing it off as false, something counter to "real" connection; but if that's the whole of it, that transforms it into possibilities, not shortcomings.  Thank you! ❤

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• VI

  @vincentnightray750 · 6 months ago

  I&apos;m aroace and generally sex-repulsed, the thought of having a sexual partner makes me gag.. but I do have some fantasies (had them since i was young) and it&apos;s always been a bit confusing trying to make things match.<br>This discussion was so interesting! Thank you

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• RO

  @ro-hoe3117 · 2 years ago

  <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vD9moO2Dhzk&amp;t=1733">28:53</a> sub and topping aren&apos;t the opposite of each other, I think they meant to say domming, topping and bottoming is a physical thing, subbing and domming is psychological, someone who&apos;s both a dom and sub is a switch, someone who&apos;s a top and bottom is a versatile (vers)

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• PU

  @PurpleHoneyyy · 7 months ago

  &quot;his/their jacket&quot; was hilarious

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• PK

  @PkmnLovr1 · 2 years ago

  I’m actually really surprised that they didn’t really go over the psychology of using words such as “daddy, mommy, any other familial label like ‘bro’ etc” and Freud’s idea that we innately want to have sex with our parents. The idea of incest is not something that I want in my sexual fantasies. However, there is SO much sexual play around the idea of calling sexual partners “daddy” or “mommy”. I had hoped that he would talk about the daddy/mommy wordplay kinks and what that means in relation to psychology

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• AM

  @ampeyro · 6 months ago

  <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vD9moO2Dhzk&amp;t=2850">47:30</a> Oh, now I get it!<br><br>I always hesitate and look unsure, even when I enthusiastically agree. That&apos;s why I mostly only ever had relationships with abusive partners.<br><br>Non-abusive people don&apos;t read convincing consent from me, and stay away.😭

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• AZ

  @AzNAbGjDm · 2 years ago

  Coming from a sub point of view my own.<br>Let&apos;s just say I had a really hard life and because of that I always had to be in control. I always had to take care of myself, I always had to protect myself, and always had to do things myself, and there wasn&apos;t anyone to be there for me.<br>I&apos;m a sub because I don&apos;t want control, I want to feel and be told <br>A good Dom/Dommy can make me feel safe something I don&apos;t feel much of. I feel protected something I don&apos;t feel much of.<br>Soil I give up that control to someone I trust and care about<br>I am free 😊.

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• SA

  @sashaa.3912 · 2 years ago

  i’m a queer, poly they/she aspiring sex therapist and i’m SO here for these conversations!! love love love 🫶🏻❤️

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• SN

  @SnowMouse1 · 1 year ago

  My ex introduced me to Evie Lupine&apos;s channel. Very in-depth episodes on CG/l relationships as well as all the questions to ask a partner when starting out to stay safe.<br>Helped me a lot in knowing the verbage and what categories I wanted to pursue in kink and not diving into the deep end.

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