The science behind dramatically better conversations | Charles Duhigg | TEDxManchester

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  @STHAD-mw4gu · 1 year ago

  "HEY YOU, WHEN LAST DID YOU CRY ...WHY YOU RUNNING...COME HERE👹!!!"

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  @javfuego5226 · 1 year ago

  “Instead of asking the facts of someone’s life, ask how they feel about life” really got to me, that is beautiful.

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  @LDwiggs · 1 year ago

  I was 5 minutes in, thinking, “this sounds like an exact rip-off of a book I just read.” Then it hit me to look at the speaker’s name. Charles Duhigg, author of “Super Communicators,” the book I just read. I’m smart.

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  @guvebird · 7 days ago

  If anxiety makes normal situations feel far more intense than they should, Anwen Reid’s anxiety quiz might help you understand why your mind reacts that way.

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  @The-Jack085 · 1 month ago

  I thought I understood how my own mind worked until I came across Talvo Ren. Read The Reality Turn out of curiosity and ended up realizing how many of my decisions were basically the same patterns repeating over and over. You don’t really get what Ren means until you catch yourself doing it.

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  @Adv.sanaul_mustafa_qadri · 2 years ago

  Moral of the story: try to connect emotionally by asking deep questions.

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  @sidewinder_007 · 4 months ago

  this was weirdly satisfying to watch 😭 the flow, cuts, everything just felt smooth without trying too hard. lowkey the kind of content you accidentally rewatch without noticing lol

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  @alexanderbazamurillo · 1 year ago

  To anyone who's suffering depression, anxiety, insomnia and other mental health problems, you are not alone. I feel you. You are so brave. You are doing so well. I'm proud of you. I'm sending you a virtual hug ❤ what helped me get out of that dark spiral was journaling and mindfulness from Shift Your Mind by Alexander Brooks. The anxiety that used to control my whole day barely shows up now!🙏❤

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  @delamberty · 1 year ago (edited)

  Summary.<br><br>You become a super communicator by knowing which conversation you are in. There&apos;re 3 types of conversations:<br>1. Practical: What is this really about? How can I help?<br>2. Emotional: How do you feel<br>3. Social: Who are we. <br><br>All of you must be either on 1, 2, or 3 to communicate well. If one is on 2 while another is on 3, it will cause conflicts. <br><br>With practical, you offer help. With emotional, you listen and reciprocate emotional.<br>With social, you reciprocate vulnerability. <br><br>And that&apos;s how you become a super communicator.

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  @caiogirao · 2 years ago

  When was the last time you cried in front of someone? The last time I cried in front of someone was two weeks ago, in front of my wife. I had a terrible day of depression. Everything seemed so messed up. I&apos;ve been unemployed for five months now, I don&apos;t know what I&apos;m doing with my life, I feel useless, I don&apos;t have a clue about my purpose. I keep going, though. I do art, I write, I act, I&apos;m studying, doing interviews for new roles. But that day I felt so distant from everything, from everyone. We never really win against depression or anxiety; it&apos;s a never-ending battle. But I&apos;m happy to say that even if most of the time is filled with desperation, the short, wonderful times of love, enlightenment, and care are the best times and make it worthwhile.

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  @sharathramanan1007 · 1 year ago

  As an introvert having to ask that question will make me cry infront of them

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  @ArpineJanunts · 1 year ago

  I’ve been thinking a lot about how we communicate, and I’ve realized that good conversations aren&apos;t just about talking, they’re about listening too. When I really focus on what the other person is saying, without planning my response, the conversation feels more genuine and connected. I also think conversations are more meaningful when we approach them with curiosity, not just to make our point. Asking open-ended questions and being open to different perspectives makes a big difference. For me, the goal of a conversation should be understanding, not winning, and when I focus on that, I’ve found that discussions are more productive and rewarding.

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