The Real Reason You’re Exhausted: How To Gain Control of Your Time & Your Life

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• LO

  @LonelyTreeSunset · 1 year ago

  Comfort in discomfort. It's a horrible place to be. Endless suffering through one's own choices. A real addiction to suffering and joyless striving.

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• JA

  @janetkenny4861 · 1 year ago

  Sometimes change comes about as a result of something ending.  I was consumed with the business of working and wrapping up my career, the busy was all consuming.  Retirement and time on my hands was a huge eye opener once the work life was done. I was exhausted physically and mentally, but didn’t know how to turn the busy drive off so turned that to organizing my home. I felt guilty with any down time such as naps, reading a book, watching a movie until my health suffered.  I had to prioritize me and learn to enjoy the quiet, my body feels much better with sleep, exercise and just going slow about my life. It’s a process,  can’t turn it off like a light switch. Great conversation in this episode.

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• IT

  @italiaponk9597 · 1 year ago

  I normally don’t write comments. But I have listened to you for sometime. I live in the Netherlands and this episode like some others, really touched me. Ian not a telephone person but I am  always busy with different things at home outside it too. It has been always hard to me to sit or do nothing. Now I can see why and how wrong it is. I’m 61, not children to take care anymore. But I never stop and I feel guilty when I’m not doing anything. I was always thinking that it was wasting of time to relax. Thanks to you now I understand and of course my problem comes from my childhood. My mother has always valued more the boys in my family and as a child I use to try my best to show her that I was as good as any of my brothers. So I kept always busy and became an addiction. Thanks so much because from today I will walk another road. I promise this to myself.

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• KI

  @kimousley5586 · 1 year ago

  Don't ask why the addiction. Ask why the pain. Yes!

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• DE

  @DebbieLegge · 1 year ago (edited)

  I see this as a huge social disease. I've broken up with my addiction to my cell phone thank you to another podcast. Now I NEVER take my phone out in waiting rooms, in line ups, on red lights and when I crawl into bed. volume is on vibrate.  when I'm in public. Ahhh the relief. 😊

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• KR

  @KristenMcNamara · 1 year ago (edited)

  As an ADHD woman, completing tasks or seeming busy validated me with adults when I was a kid and when I was daydreaming that was frowned upon, so I programmed myself to always be busy and wonder what was next and my fear of being bored was slowly killed and filled with busywork…… I then lost my creativity and new ideas and started to question why. I found in the freedom and silence of boredom, was the missing component I had lost through trying to fit in with society. I am now very proud of doing nothing and schedule it to allow myself to get into that zone and feel triggered less and less when someone goes “do you ever work and you have too much time on your hands”. People will notice, it’s a superpower many will never understand.

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• HO

  @HowToLoveLife-YouGotThis · 1 year ago

  We are responsible for our own lives. Knowing that is liberating 🎉

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• TA

  @TailsNTrails-r1d · 1 year ago

  This is me …this is my life. Always doing something… An endless to do list. I’m exhausted, I have anxiety, I have panic attacks, I can’t stop doing stuff all the time!

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• CH

  @ChristineFruehwirth-z2w · 1 year ago

  I had to get divorced because my ex husband was a workaholic and addicted to busyness.  It made me physically sick to try to keep up.  I’m much happier living beyond the constant expectation of achievement and busyness.  Thank you for this episode!

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• JU

  @Justinhedderman · 1 year ago (edited)

  The quote that I live my life by is, “You can’t pour from an empty glass”. Of course, being the hypocrite that I am, I share this with my friends and family and lose the important aspect of the quote - to take care of myself. Thank you for reminding me to check myself first so that I can continue to be there for the ones I love (including MYSELF). Love you, Mel.

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• KA

  @kacyemge3585 · 1 year ago

  I really appreciate what you're putting out into the world. I am finding so much more peace in life because of it.

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• CI

  @citrusbitrus · 1 year ago

  The ability to sit and do nothing is HARD… never a truer word said.

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