The Challenges of Single Life in the Orthodox Community: A Discussion with Tzipora Grodko

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• EL

  @elianepeha3300 · 1 month ago

  Thank you for sharing your life and making yourself so vulnerable <br>I feel much more sensitive towards the single world after this podcast

• EL

  @elianepeha3300 · 1 month ago

  Your a wonderful woman….<br>Very talented and intelligent 💐

• RA

  @RachelleEvanston · 10 months ago

  “A mix between the Chofetz Chaim and Brad Pitt” LOVE it!!❤ So true.

• RA

  @RachelleEvanston · 10 months ago

  You are both so beautiful, intelligent and real! &nbsp;🌹 May your lives bring you both continued success, 💐💃 and the fulfillment of every dream! Sending love!💕💙💜

• HE

  @helenhern893 · 2 years ago

  I have a lot to say here. &nbsp;I was unmarried &nbsp;until 33. And now have been married more than 20 years. I still painfully identify with so much of what you have been discussing. &nbsp;The treatment of single women, the lack of respect etc, the dreading of yom tov. &nbsp;I still remember and feel it. I am horrified at comments from people about freezing eggs (this technology was not common when I was single) and then telling you to have the babies on your own, because being married isn’t so great! &nbsp;Just totally beyond inappropriate! &nbsp;I am so so saddened to hear how lonely people are , how horrible shabbos has become for them. &nbsp;I agree so much with what you both said about living your best life. &nbsp;Travel, be together with friends - there is so much strength in being with people who understand your challenge. &nbsp;But also - if you are able to - extend yourself to be involved in chesed- it wasn’t something I was initially interested in, but it connected me with people, and gave me a real spiritual purpose that makes you internally stronger . &nbsp;And you are right , when Hashem decides it is time for you to meet your spouse, he makes it happen. &nbsp;Even when that person does not resemble what you were looking for on paper - he arranges it and makes it happen. &nbsp;However, I do think that Hashem makes it happen, when you extend yourself in different ways - not necessarily hishtadlus in dating, but work and changes on your spiritual self. &nbsp;Of course this is all my own opinion based on my personal experiences. &nbsp;And BH I am married now, but let us not think that life is a fairytale even after marriage, it’s not a movie, but it is better to be with someone for this ride we call life. &nbsp;I give both of you and all unmarried yet people a Bracha that they should live their life to the fullest and embrace their tafkid and Iyh find their person - and it should be clear when they do!

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• SH

  @ShlomitWasser · 1 year ago

  I&apos;m so sorry you are feeling this. It&apos;s all their loss. You are a beautiful person!! Would be honored to know you!!

• SU

  @surilevy2079 · 3 years ago

  You are so funny!!

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• SU

  @surilevy2079 · 3 years ago

  Do it again

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• TH

  @TheNationofIsrael613 · 2 years ago

  I was born in the Soviet Union. <br><br>The Jews were not religious at all...but had the same mentality about age and marriage lol

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• CH

  @chayarubenstein2673 · 1 year ago (edited)

  Wow! I know quite a few people who got married over 40 or over 50 with the right person that was worth waiting for. So I like what you are doing. I also know too many people who married the wrong person as a compromise and ended up either getting a divorce or staying not so happily married. I agree that one shouldn’t compromise. I know that I would not have gone out with anyone I didn’t both like and admire as well as their level of שמירת מצות יראת שמים ויראת חטא having to be right. My attempts at שדכנות have been a complete failure. We invited a friend to spend a Shabbat with us at friends who had a potential חתן we did not know as a neighbor. It ended up being hate at first sight on her part. So embarrassing. She is now happily married with someone else entirely. I am commenting as I listen and am just horrified at how insensitive people can be. I have met it in other areas too.

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• TH

  @TheNationofIsrael613 · 2 years ago

  I think ashkenazi non-married men should wear tallit.<br><br>I went to a Syrian shul and they forced me to wear one. lol

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• ES

  @estherhirsch4460 · 2 years ago

  Who taught these adults sensitivity and what r their kids learning.? &nbsp;I&apos;m sad to hear that ppl can be so clueless

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