Shadow Work and Childhood Trauma

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• JN

  @jnetbeams · 3 years ago

  We were burdens. Man, that was exactly how I grew up. And I lived that people pleaser, perfectionist life for years. Thank goodness for healing therapy/therapists.

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• SU

  @susanmurphy958 · 3 years ago

  When you grow up underneath an umbrella of fear, you do whatever it takes to survive. When you finally get away from your abusers, you don't always know what you are doing. Like, you don't know how to run your life because you are free of your abusers, physically you are, but they still live in your head.

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• LA

  @lavonnebenson7409 · 3 years ago

  I am 63 and finally found someone who understands - this guy . He has my sense of humor too. ♥️

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• JA

  @janberger4057 · 1 year ago

  Growing up in a violent home, the safest way to function was to try and stay under the radar and be a people pleaser. As an adult, it has taken many years to realize that people pleasing no longer works well because I now tend to attract controlling people who ignore my boundaries.

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• DB

  @dbandekar · 3 years ago

  Thanks for remembering us neurodivergent folks. This is hard for us because we don’t know how much is the disability and how much is the trauma. Although my psychiatrist told me once that just because we are more prone to being affected by abuse, no one should be abusing us in the first place. It’s still them, not us.

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• MI

  @michaelavasconcellos5448 · 2 years ago

  As a mother I know there is so much I have to unlearn from my own childhood so I don't traumatize my kids. Motherhood has brought up trauma I never knew I had. When my toddlers whine I get so triggered and I want to tell them "children should be seen and not heard!" But instead I try to say "if you could talk to me about what's wrong, I could  help you. Could you try to take a breath and try telling me how I can help." When my toddlers throw things or hit me playfully, I want to get out a belt like one was brought out for me. Instead, I go outside, take a breath, come back and tell them I don't like being hit because it hurts and we should respect each other's bodies and boundaries. When my toddlers don't want to listen to instructions I have to deprogram that they are just disrespectful instead of just being distracted to listen. There's so much I can talk about. These were all really helpful but please could you do a video on working through childhood trauma when youre triggered by your own children.

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• BL

  @BlueskyDenver · 3 years ago (edited)

  I always felt shame and humiliation when a person I dated was telling me I was “ranting”, when I was simply attempting to express myself and to be heard. Somehow I felt even more hurt and wounded having to hear the person who was claiming to care and love me instead belittle me and dismiss me entirely without even taking anything I said into consideration. Even when I had gone above and beyond for that person to meet their needs in their time of need, yet when it came time for them to help me and reciprocate they began giving me the reasons as to why they couldn’t help me, and when I said something they began behaving badly, angrily and began telling me off. All because I dared ask for basic of human kindness and reciprocal care.

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• ST

  @stoneyhighhigh3677 · 3 years ago

  Currently 27 .... raising a 8 year old and yesterday I lashed out the way my parents use to do and immediately had to run off and catch myself.........I always try not to be like my parents but yesterday just showed I'm not over and i need to unlearn those nasty habits 🤦🏿‍♀️ im getting bacj into therapy so I can be a better person and mother ....this is soo hard!!! Everyday I fight with myself over all the  mentally and emotionally abuse I had to endure

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• WI

  @wiser1254 · 3 years ago

  I’m 77, and have been on this journey for at least five years with you, and others that I respect for this genuine growth experience.  Thank you for continually challenging me to heal, grow, and change to become the best I can be! Keep going with your important work!❤

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• AU

  @autodidactic · 2 years ago

  Ah,  the whole "am I self consumed or did I end up in a room full of jerks" set of problems is a spicy trauma response

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• HA

  @HalloweenwithMinnesotaQueen · 3 years ago

  you make my inner child feel safe

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• TH

  @theearmuffs1046 · 3 years ago

  “Please don’t let anyone find out what my home life is like” that was one of the biggest fears for me, especially because my parents knew a lot of the faculty and staff at my schools so if anyone did find out then my parents would know I had “betrayed” them

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