The Roots of Social Anxiety... ft. Dr. Ali Mattu

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• DR

  @drali · 2 years ago · pinned

  Thanks to Dr. K for having me on and thank you to the wonderful community here for being so welcoming!

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• JH

  @JHawk-90 · 2 years ago

  Best guest. Best conversation, second only too when Samwise told Frodo that there was good in the world

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• KA

  @karolinawww6834 · 10 months ago (edited)

  Finally, someone saying brute force is not the way. The exposure and 'just do it' approaches are sometimes worse that avoidance.

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• JE

  @jessicaesplin · 2 years ago

  When Dr. Ali talked about his experience with selective mutism I almost wanted to start crying because I finally had a name for something I've experienced throughout my life that has felt very shameful. I am going to have to watch this stream several times to let the lessons sink in a little deeper.

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• V.

  @v.ndeadd · 2 years ago

  Video starts at <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aVJfCgKugAI&amp;t=313">5:13</a>

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• FI

  @FirstPersonOnUtube · 2 years ago

  Just hearing them talk about social anxiety situations gives me anxiety.

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• ST

  @staykul2025-q2i · 2 years ago (edited)

  &quot;The cool thing about a &nbsp;cycle is that you can stop at any one point&quot;<br>&quot;If the weather app gives the exact same &nbsp;prediction everyday, thats a bad weather app...If the mind keeps giving the same thoughts on everything then those thoughts clearly dont matter....this is not new information....Not specific to the context Im in&quot;<br>Awsm and insightful convo !!

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• KE

  @kenspiracy2792 · 2 years ago

  Oh neat a video about me

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• FU

  @funygameur · 2 years ago

  <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aVJfCgKugAI&amp;t=2040">34:00</a><br>- Wow.<br><br>He said &apos;&apos;mouse&apos;&apos; is a kid with anxiety, running away.<br><br>I directly thought :<br><br>1)<br>&quot;I want to be a lion&quot;<br><br>2)<br>&quot;So why was I agressive as a kid ?<br>Oh maybe because it&apos;s what cornered panicked animals do&quot;<br><br>And then he said :<br><br>&quot;Lion backed into a cage roars&quot;<br><br>Fuck. Story of my life.

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• AN

  @anzelaiv · 2 years ago

  Same story. A quiet and &quot;shy kid&quot;, nothing wrong on the outside, screaming, struggling, and feeling hopeless inside. Learned about selective mutism only in my mid 20&apos;s and everything finally made sense.

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• AN

  @anzelaiv · 2 years ago

  From personal experience. CBT approach requires you to constantly push yourself out of your comfort zone just to figure out what&apos;s wrong and what to do about it. It might be faster if it works for you, but when you&apos;ve already spent your entire life pushing your limits and existing outside of your comfort zone in survival mode without good results (it works until you relax and stop pushing yoursrlf, then you have to start over), you don&apos;t necessarily trust that more pushing is going to work, and you&apos;re just too tired to keep doing it to yourself.<br><br>Psychodynamic approach is slower, but it allows you to deeply get to know and understand yourself (instead of another person doing it for you), and the discomfort you perience is mostly just internal, no one needs to witness it. Having to face your emotions in the safety of your home is less stressful for your nervous system. Significantly less stressful, and I won&apos;t exaggerate by saying that after enough work is done, things you struggled with simply stop feeling so challenging without you ever trying to push yourself and going through that awkwardness and overwhelming fear.<br><br>It&apos;s been two years for me, and I didn&apos;t get over all that I struggled with, but it been a very safe and comforting journey, all I need to do is keep going and enjoy the changes.<br><br>The point is that you really don&apos;t have to put yourself through that sense of terror over and over, unless you require very fast results. &nbsp;CBT ferls like throwing a child into the water to get them to learn how to swim, Psychodynamics feel like proper swimming lessons.

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• NO

  @NorthHollywood · 2 years ago

  <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aVJfCgKugAI&amp;t=630">10:30</a> &quot;Talk for maybe about an hour&quot; <br><b>nearly 3 hour conversation</b>

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