is your personality actually just your trauma?

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  @HeyRowanEllis · 1 year ago · pinned

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  @littlecr3atur3 · 1 year ago

  ~ <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_sXptG4ROKE&amp;t=1335">22:15</a> as someone with chronic and severe migraines, people absolutely stop giving grace after a while. I&apos;ve lost a couple friends because I cancelled on them a couple times or flat out said I couldn&apos;t do certain things like concerts or festivals because they trigger really bad migraines. I think too many people just don&apos;t want to accommodate any disability and/or chronic illness

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  @catalystcomet · 1 year ago

  Figuring out that actually no, I&apos;m not super introverted I just needed to be alone to be safe in my childhood, helped me to understand that much of my sorrow was caused from loneliness.

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  @merrillsunderland8662 · 1 year ago (edited)

  I was diagnosed with ADHD in the year 2000 when I was 12 years old. Later on it was suggested by a family therapist that I might be autistic, but that wasn’t confirmed until this year. I’ve been diagnosed with depression and generalized anxiety as well. I’ve cycled through phases of being more or less medicated and bounced around therapists for my whole life. And my disorders have absolutely affected my performance in school and work, my ability to utilize tools and resources to grow as a person, and I’ve hurt people throughout my dating life. <br><br>My short answer: untreated mental illness takes over and functionally <b>does</b> become your entire personality. When it’s managed properly, you can develop beyond that wiring and a new you has a chance to emerge.

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  @moonlight10ing · 1 year ago

  <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_sXptG4ROKE&amp;t=30">0:30</a> I don&apos;t know if this counts but someone once told me &quot;you&apos;re so shy it&apos;s cute&quot;, I thought to myself &quot;I&apos;m actually a bad b**ch but my social anxiety doesn&apos;t let my true personality to shine&quot;. It was before therapy, I&apos;m doing a lot better now

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  @LizbetNene · 1 year ago

  Last week I went into the GP&apos;s office to get my weight recorded, and I noticed in the notes that the nurse said I was feeling &quot;well&quot; that day. The thing is, I wasn&apos;t - she asked if there was anything I wanted to discuss, but I was there to get my weight recorded for a totally unrelated medication to my depression. Are you supposed to vomit up the black void of horror in your head at every possible opportunity to medical professionals? Being apocalyptically depressed is just normal for me, it&apos;s been my default state for as long as I can remember. It&apos;s impossible to communicate this accurately, yet if I muscle through enough to get anything done I&apos;ll be noted down as &quot;fine&quot;. If I&apos;m not sobbing or catatonic then I&apos;m invisible.

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  @lexa2310 · 1 year ago

  I just wonder where the line is. Because life IS hard, work IS draining, people DO suffer every day through big things and small things and small things that feel big. How we grow up DOES change how we interact with the world and other people. So what is really pathological and what is simply character traits that society doesnt value because they are not productive enough?

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  @abbaknow6869 · 1 year ago

  I&apos;ve had a really hard time with stereotypes surrounding this topic and it&apos;s effected how I&apos;ve accessed care and medical attention. I believe a fabricated image of a person who self identifies and creates a personality around mental illness has made it harder to be taken seriously even in medical appointments, it&apos;s formed a bias that exists before your personal account. I&apos;ve had drs immediately shut down the conversation because I said I believed I had OCD and was seeking treatment, without asking about symptoms or why I thought that, and the same had taken place when I&apos;ve tried to bring up lifelong depression and anxiety. I&apos;ve had similar attitudes from people in my social circle, who have misunderstood that I wasn&apos;t asking to be witnessed or seeking attention for the sake of it, I was asking for help. It wasn&apos;t until I personally sought out a ASD/ADHD diagnosis that medical professionals seemed credit my account with any value. The Dr who did my ASD assessment even wrote in my diagnostic report that they felt the reason I wasn&apos;t previously diagnosed could be in part due to these biases. This concerns me, as modern mental health outreach primarily directs people to talk about it and reach out to friends, family and medical professionals. I&apos;m an adult that has struggled their whole life, where I am in life reflects this, in work, income, housing stability and health. I am lucky in that I am in such a mental space that I have a level of self awareness, if someone is dismissive, I know what the reality is I am living, I can see the consequence. It&apos;s terrifying to think of people who are experiencing mental illness that doesn&apos;t allow this encountering the same bias and not being able to access help.

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  @DreamsOfRyleh · 1 year ago

  It&apos;s always tricky to separate unfair stigma from earnest assessment: anyone who has ever struggled in their professional life as a result of a condition cannot avoid recognizing that diminished capacity is a fundamental part of disability, and employers necessarily want maximum capability at minimum cost. <br><br>A huge part of the modern &quot;crisis&quot; of mental health is that a capitalist society would much rather deal with a mental health crisis (which they are not expected to solve) than admit a life built around maximizing production is going to be miserable for most people. The former gets made into a medical problem (and is not a corporate responsibility), the latter would demand &nbsp;social change.<br><br>So no surprise that self diagnosis is on the rise as diagnostic criteria get expanded: it&apos;s the only way to get any recognition or relief. And at the same time, you see the backlash growing amongst those who are asked to pick up the slack as our ideology prevents questioning the need to constantly drive everyone to their breaking point.

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  @friederikewohrmann · 1 year ago

  <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_sXptG4ROKE&amp;t=1406">23:26</a> with some disorders (e.g. bipolar or schizophrenia) the question isn’t even which parts are consciously chosen or not. there are just aspects that the person (at least in the instance) cannot see as part of their illness. they lose insight and behave as if their version of reality is <b>the</b> version of reality: a manic person really does believe they’re curing cancer because they’re Jesus and will receive a Nobel prize for the wonderful book they write about it. a person hearing voices really does hear those voices. there is no possibility to separate those experiences from your ‘normal’ self at the time; this can only be done after the fact and is often laden with guilt and shame

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  @ArtichokeHunter · 1 year ago

  sounds like rowan&apos;s not taking a better help spon! love it tbh

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  @Sam_on_YouTube · 1 year ago

  <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_sXptG4ROKE&amp;t=1540">25:40</a> VERY minor nitpick. DSM-5 never classified homosexuality as a mental health disorder. It was in the DSM-1 and the first six editions of the DSM-2. It was changed in the 7th printing of the DSM-2. Doctors currently use the 2022 revision of the 2013 DSM-5 and DSM-6 is expected in the next few years. DSM-5, among other things, merged the diagnoses of autism and Asperger&apos;s.

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