Pilar Sordo: cómo encontrar PAZ cuando estás viviendo un momento difícil

Pilar Sordo returned to the yellow sofa, and something strange happened: all the topics ended up in the same place. The cell phone. Anxiety, sadness, relationships, purpose: everything. She's the first guest to appear twice on this podcast. She arrived sharing something she recently made public: she has a four-centimeter cyst on her heart, the result of four years of almost nonstop stress. The body speaks what the mind keeps silent. And she arrived with an unsettling idea: that self-love is being used as an excuse. That "because I love myself, I'm leaving you" is leaving us all alone. We talked about internal dialogue, about inhabiting sadness, about cell phone addiction, about purpose, about relationships, and about the awareness of death. Pilar Sordo is a Chilean psychologist and popularizer, author of Viva la diferencia (Long Live the Difference), No quiero crecer (I Don't Want to Grow Up), and Bienvenido dolor (Welcome Pain), and has spent decades conducting field research throughout Latin America. ► IN THIS EPISODE YOU WILL LEARN ▪ Why false self-love is more like selfishness than self-care ▪ What it means to endure a relationship crisis, and why it's not the same as putting up with it ▪ How to change your inner dialogue with a single word, and why "I'm less tired today" doesn't work ▪ How many hours a day does the average Spanish-speaking adult spend scrolling ▪ Why anxiety is not a disorder but a symptom ▪ What the anxiety cushion we all sleep on is, and what makes it bigger every morning ▪ Why dwelling in sadness heals, and escaping from it makes you sick ▪ The three cell phone-free periods Pilar suggests: morning, night, and dinner ▪ What people who are dying say when they look back on their lives ▪ What she answered when I asked her what happiness is ► CHAPTERS 00:00 All topics end in the Cell phone 04:17 "I opened a branch of my heart" 07:33 Why are we all so stressed? 08:30 Instagram and dissatisfaction 10:26 The never-ending scroll 15:23 Rumination and the internal loop 18:24 How to detect your inner dialogue 21:09 The brain works by repetition 24:22 "Today I'm more rested than yesterday" 25:08 From "fat" to "less bloated" 30:18 Let's talk about pain and sadness 32:26 What it means to inhabit sadness 36:50 4 hours 15 of scrolling a day 38:30 "Anxiety is not a disorder" 40:55 Everyone's anxiety cushion 45:39 Blocking cell phone scrolling 49:29 Its creators don't give it to their children 52:00 Morning, night, and the table 58:24 The purpose is Oversold 01:00:59 28.6% of young people feel like failures 01:05:16 Purpose is nurtured in a nest 01:11:25 "I don't want to grow up": why grow up? 01:13:56 What those who are dying say 01:15:13 Life is a terminal illness 01:20:22 The gift: the lilac candle 01:24:44 Chile leads in divorces 01:27:41 False self-love 01:33:14 What is happiness for Pilar? 01:34:24 Happiness is the absence of noise 01:40:59 The task: three blocks without cell phones ► MENTIONED IN THE EPISODE ▪ Jon Kabat-Zinn, creator of the mindfulness program: "You can't stop the waves, but you can learn to surf them" ▪ Carl Jung: "The privilege of a lifetime is Becoming who you truly are ▪ Buddha: "Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional" ▪ Gabriel Rolón: Love is not enough ▪ Books by Pilar Sordo: Viva la diferencia (Long Live the Difference), No quiero crecer (I Don't Want to Grow Up), Bienvenido dolor (Welcome Pain) ▪ National Youth and Wellbeing Survey, SENDA 2024 ► IF YOU LIKED THIS, CONTINUE HERE 🎬 The first conversation with Pilar Sordo: Pilar Sordo: El secreto para ser feliz cua... ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ 💬 JOIN THE MANE MARTIN COMMUNITY PODCAST Here we continue the conversation from each episode. 👉 https://chat.whatsapp.com/Cjvd8nW2a7e... ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ ► LISTEN TO THE AUDIO 🎧 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/6TFn73v... ► MANE MARTIN PODCAST IS ALSO ON... Real conversations that leave you with something concrete to bridge the gap between who you dream of being and who you are today. New episodes every Wednesday at 7:30 PM. ▶️ Subscribe and turn on notifications: https://www.youtube.com/@manemartinof... 📷 Podcast Instagram: Instagram: manemartinpodcast 📷 Mane's Instagram: Instagram: manemartin 🎵 TikTok: TikTok: mane.martin.c ✉️ Contact and press inquiries: [email protected] #ManeMartinPodcast #Wellbeing #SelfLove #PilarSordo