YOU in the Mind of Narcissist, Borderline

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• SQ

  @squirreldb · 3 years ago

  I've seen my narc have conversations with people in his mind. His face gets so animated, it is strange to watch. I've seen him gaslight me by accusing me of doing what my interject has done in his mind, despite my solid indisputable evidence to the contrary. There is no winning.

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• OR

  @orirjokullorsteinsson5250 · 3 years ago

  It happened time and time again that my narcissist described me in ways alien to me, as if she was describing someone else. Sometimes I was idealized by her - sometimes criticized - in both instances for issues that had little or nothing to with my person or personality.  I now understand that she was dealing with the introject in her mind.

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• NO

  @nobodynowhere21 · 3 years ago

  I thought i was going crazy. I kept thinking "Its like they have this 2D cardboard cut out effigy of me in their mind" and they were never looking at ME they always just look at their cardboard cut out. Im so glad i stopped wasting energy/time on them. Now the healing happens.

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• BO

  @Bornintoclusterb · 3 years ago

  This is so good. They don’t confuse internal and external objects, they try to merge the two. Yes! Thank you Sam, you’re on fire lately. 🔥🔥

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• JU

  @juniperg2359 · 3 years ago

  Thank you Professor. Thats why you cant resonate or have a successful interaction with a NPD

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• CH

  @chereeB-hummingbird · 2 years ago

  Explains why they lie so much pathetically..&amp; denie &nbsp;when you challenge them..&amp; why they hate the word NO! <br>INSANE! &nbsp;Good ridance !

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• NY

  @nyssanorton3712 · 3 years ago

  This explains projection because once they have an internal persona for you it has to be manifested in the real person. Also explains the controlling and cohesive behaviour.

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• CA

  @cameogutierrez3466 · 3 years ago

  Thank you for this I thought he was bipolar, making shit up or confusing me with someone else he was dealing with at the same time, I get it now.

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• MA

  @mariaelenarodriguez6188 · 3 years ago

  “…I personally doubt whether narcissists qualify as human beings…” Coming from an expert on the topic I feel better. Thank you Dr. Vaknin :)

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• IN

  @indu1133 · 3 years ago

  Match made in heaven 😂.... cracked me

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• KJ

  @kjunie3698 · 3 years ago

  Every time, I think, “Now that’s the best descriptive analysis I’ve ever heard; so much resonates.” &nbsp; &nbsp;I will continue to learn from your authority. Thank you!

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• US

  @user-tn5uf · 3 years ago

  The last part of the video explaining why the failed attempt by a borderline to turn a idealized into a persecutary internal object causing the borderline to act out was like a enlightenment for me. <br>I never understood why my ex with borderline would literally always try to push me into &nbsp;some drama or stupid argument during one of the uncountable breakups. I never wanted bad blood between us even though the breakups were very painful for me. So I tried to end things on good terms most of the time. <br>But by doing so I effectively took away his defense mechanism of splitting and &quot;painting me black&quot; turning me into a persecutary internal object. Leaving him completely defenseless and exposed to unbearable pain, shame and guilt. So he always had to reach out to me or act out in a way that would trigger a negative response from me in order to cause a huge fight and drama. This was the only way that he could complete the transformation of turning me into a persecutary (bad/evil) object to justify his own behaviour and actions.

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