Deep Dive into Trauma and how it affects YOUR life !trauma !guide !team

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  @perpetual-spree · 3 years ago (edited)

  I've had a recent realization that self-sabotage is self-abandonment. It's abandoning ourselves to our circumstances, our traumas, and our stress. Every time we choose the "fuck it" response, we are abandoning ourselves. Sabotage is planning out a negative outcome. That hardly ever happens. We don't start our day meticulously planning how we'll screw something up. More often, we just get overwhelmed and hit the "fuck it" button and toss ourselves to the tide. The solution is to self-partner and get on our own side. Be a true friend to ourselves and be self-compassionate with our responses. Like, just take a beat and ask yourself, "what is the outcome I'd prefer here?" And do THAT.

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  @ghostinshellshock · 3 years ago

  please do release this workshop on YouTube. we don't all have easy time finding info about ACTUAL STUFF YOU NEED TO DO TO GET THERE. if its not popular in comparison with other vids its still important for many. we can't all just go to therapy.

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  @MommyMoments855 · 3 years ago

  I have cptsd, it took a long time to untangle the mess. It presented as anxiety disorder and depression when I was 16 and then I got diagnosed with ADHD 2 years ago when I turned 20. Trauma influences every aspect of your life, you start people pleasing, you start losing your own personality and identity to become a more accepted and likeable person, just so you can maintain the superficial relationship with a parent. You become ashamed and deeply affected by your failure and feel unlovable when you make mistakes. You rely heavily on the approval and acceptance of others, just to feel good enough. You are hyperaware of the moods and needs of others and deny your own needs and wants to accomodate theirs. You don&apos;t know who you are or what you want in life. You become a perfectionist with an inability to start something and deadly afraid of making choices. You are so afraid of people abandoning you and think that even small mistakes could lead to that. You start to dissociate, you get burned out quick. Nightmares invade your sleep and you become a tired hypervigilant mess. <br>All this because the world wasn&apos;t safe for you and the people that needed to protect you didn&apos;t. It&apos;s not your fault

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  @julietardos5044 · 3 years ago

  What&apos;s going on in the lives of those 40% of kids who have no trauma in their lives? &nbsp;Is anyone studying the absence of trauma in childhood? &nbsp;I think that would help parents and schools do a better job of parenting and teaching!

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  @antor2471 · 3 years ago

  “kindness is going beyond what people deserve”

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  @sammarks9146 · 2 years ago

  On nature being mentally healthy - Lao Tzu said, &quot;Nature does not rush, yet everything is accomplished.&quot; It&apos;s healing to see an ecosystem just <b>exist</b> for the sake of existing. Keeps our own lives in perspective.

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  @narcissistwhisperer · 3 years ago

  About people not being able to cry &amp; being shamed for crying. &nbsp;I frequently heard, stop crying or I will give you something to cry about.

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  @whawha8043 · 2 years ago

  Met a girl on and off with cptsd, even though physically, emotionally, spiritually, and personally were great together, she was ultimately unable to love or be loved. Heartbreaking and most disappointing thing to accept. I hope she gets the help she needs to live a happy life.

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  @michelekriewall5423 · 3 years ago

  I opened the floodgates to emotions 40 yrs ago and haven&apos;t stopped crying since. The sadness has never resolved. I worked out regularly, &nbsp; rollerbladed, hiked, developed close friendships, finished college, started a new career, and went to therapy whenever I could afford it. Now.....after so many yrs I&apos;m nack in therapy because &nbsp;of the hopelessness I feel.

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  @whisped8145 · 2 years ago

  <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RGqLbCFM7dA&amp;t=3930">1:05:30</a> Another realization when it becomes very serious is: &quot;If I can do this, I can do literally anything else, because I have nothing to lose anymore. I am free, because I have the power to end it all at any moment.&quot; - That works for life-situations like living in an abusive home, it doesn&apos;t as much for chronic physical pain. The latter you have to learn to &quot;walk with the pain&quot; until you reach the breaking point that is long past the breaking point you believe to be the breaking point.

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  @sophiaisabelle1213 · 3 years ago

  Trauma is such a broad concept to tackle. We&apos;ve all had our fair share of experiencing or encountering tarumatic events in our lives, even the ones we couldn&apos;t get over.

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  @simonus5039 · 2 years ago (edited)

  The part about the Japanese art form of repaired pottery really resonated with me, it made me think about a lot of Leonard Cohen&apos;s songs and poetry. One of his famous quotes: <br>&quot;There is a crack in everything.<br>That&apos;s how the light gets in.&quot;<br>I think that metaphores like these hit so deep for me, because I feel a lot like I am broken . I try to repair myself of course, but the cracks will never become fully healed. And yet, apparently, there is light and beauty to be found in the cracks of broken pottery. Thank you Dr. K.

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