Avoidant Personality Disorder Deep Dive w/ Dr. Honda, @PsychologyInSeattle

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  @HealthyGamerGG · 1 year ago (edited) · pinned

  Want more Dr. Honda? In addition to checking out his channel (which you should!), he did a members-only lecture for us on Understanding Borderline Personality Disorder! Go to <a href="https://memberships.healthygamer.gg/">https://memberships.healthygamer.gg</a> to learn more.<br><br>PS. This video is a re-edit of a streamed conversation!

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  @cory99998 · 1 year ago

  its surreal watching my mom get a puppy and proceed to be entirely blind to his needs and distress and handling him with annoyance when hes acting out. And of course he is, because hes not getting enough play time, socialization with other dogs, or a routine he can feel good about. Like jesus christ I cant believe this person raised me

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  @omssu · 1 year ago

  To me as someone who has been diagnosed with avoidant personality disorder it feels like I am simultaneously the most average and boring person in the world but also in some inexplicable way fundamentally different than everyone else.

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  @mickey3663 · 1 year ago

  oh my god it has a name

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  @minimal13579 · 1 year ago

  “I crave being seen but being seen is dangerous.” That really sums it up for me. I’m still not sure if I’m more avoidant or schizoid, but this is all really resonates with me (the symptoms, but not the alleged origins in childhood, because that was not my experience at all).

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  @mt6612 · 1 year ago

  Tuned in for a casual watch and then some of this stuff hit home so hard that I found myself crying at the gym. For me I hold the belief in my heart that some god or fate has just determined that I will never be truly loved or supported. Just like some people meet the love of their life when they are kids, some people are destined for a life of loneliness, even if they are just as wonderful or average as everyone else. It&apos;s such a deep rooted belief and absolutely devastating. Ah well, cardio didn&apos;t work out but my heart-rate sure went up

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  @eli7527 · 1 year ago (edited)

  You know what’s weird, my parents are probably top 1% of parents, they’re seriously amazing and have always put in immeasurable effort. And still to this day at 23 years old, I don’t even feel comfortable playing a speaker when I shower because I’d be expressing my music taste and I know they would have an opinion about that. We even have very similar tastes in music. My parents are very expressive and loving and open, I’m just a different person around them. I live with them, and I hate that I can’t feel normal/myself so much. It makes life so much worse I wish I could just snap out of it

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  @Laz_RS · 1 year ago

  Being dropped off at Preschool was always a traumatic event. I showed up late, on the verge of tears, and was placed in a group of kids that were already bonded. Getting picked up was my mother being late and flustered, never once asking how my day went. This set the tone for the rest of my life. I became the painfully shy kid. Interestingly my preschool teacher would later go on to be my state&apos;s senator, and even 40 years later, when I see her on tv I still feel that anxiety.

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  @Psychojogia · 1 year ago

  I cured my social anxiety with Dr K advice - I started increasingly speaking out regardless of the inner voice analysing it and telling me to shut up. Over time, voicing out my thoughts came easier and easier, I started getting out of analysis paralysis, where you sit silently and play out everything you&apos;d LIKE TO say in your head.

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  @amytaylor2739 · 1 year ago

  Avoidant personality disorder is different than an avoidant attachment style. As far as I remember, one of the characteristics is that we do crave relationships with people, but the fear of rejection, etc, stops us from befriending those we are really interested in getting to know. We will only make friends with someone when we are 100% sure they won’t reject us.

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  @jasminvomwalde7497 · 1 year ago

  I love the contrast between the very analytical, theory building Dr. K and the incredibly compassionate and emotionally attuned Dr. Honda.<br>What a duo. They sure can teach each other a lot and become even better therapists.

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  @aff77141 · 1 year ago (edited)

  It feels right for a channel like yours to be bringing personality disorders into discussion. The way you help devillainize people is amazing, never stop being you

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