Fine, I finally read "I'm Glad My Mom Died"

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  @AnaPsychology · 2 months ago · pinned

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• RY

  @ryeneaton892 · 1 month ago

  I felt like her reflection at her mothers gravesite was her acknowledgment of the title, she was happy to walk away from the grave knowing her life was hers now

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• TA

  @tabitha8232 · 1 month ago

  Her mother’s devaluation literally feels the way you would react to a SPOUSE or an intimate partner getting a boyfriend. The emotional inc*st is so disturbing

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• DA

  @Daffodillon · 1 month ago

  to me the entirety of the book is the acknowledgement of the title...like...after all of this? finally. relief

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  @danielaazevedo7341 · 1 month ago

  It&apos;s the end scene when she says that she will never come back to the grave. When she finally acknowledges all the abuse and starts living her life without keeping her mom on the pedestal

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• GO

  @goldenapple3952 · 1 month ago

  i was suprised that people got mad at the title, as a person with a toxic manuplative mother i immediately understood what she meant. hell her mother was way worse than mine i wouldnt hold it aganist her if she straight up said &apos;&apos;i hated that bitch&apos;&apos; in the book with no explanation. i felt that heavy feeling of being someone&apos;s punching ang and therapist throught whole book and could imagine the relief of losing that. i also understand the complexity of the relationship, her feeling empty without that toxic role in her life and trying to find ways to either replicate it or move on from it. i know how it feels to ache and cry for a mother that never existed.

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• XT

  @Xtalllll · 1 month ago

  I listened to the audiobook narrated by Jennette herself. It was really great that way. To me, it appeared as though she was describing the events from her own point of view at the time they happened, relying (in parts heavily) on the reader&apos;s own ability to discern that what is currently happening is not ok. As she grows up and becomes more independent the narrator-her also becomes more aware of her situation. In my opinion, the whole structure of the book is the acknowledgement of the title.

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• NC

  @nc5337 · 1 month ago

  I think the title hits because by the end of the book, the readers are relieved that her mother is dead.

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• GO

  @gooutside262 · 1 month ago

  I like your perspective here but what I got from the title/theme was that her mom’s death finally allowed her to see the abuse for what it was and to begin healing from it.

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• DI

  @DiphyllaTheBat · 1 month ago

  I like the straight forward way the book is described to be.<br>The title is the statement. Want to know why? Read it.<br>And there&apos;s a power in simply stating the facts, describing what happened in a logical non-dramatic timeline. A story like this doesn&apos;t need to be dramatised, it doesn&apos;t need further explanation than telling what happened.<br>Maybe it&apos;s also because of my aphantasia, but I love that approach.

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• PA

  @Pancakeslugs · 1 month ago

  As someone who also has an Nmom and complex PTSD, some memories ARE just this dreamlike, disconnected version of yourself when you&apos;re expected to preform an emotion for them; there&apos;s not anything deeper going on because that can &apos;throw off&apos; the performance and the Nperson can pick that up and punish you. The mask has to be made real for protection of the inner self, so there&apos;s no inner self to reflect on. It&apos;s just the mask, with the person inside hollowed out so nothing real can shine through.

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  @Poutnicek · 1 month ago

  Completely agree with your statement that we as readers aren&apos;t really allowed into her inner world in a way that one would expect from a memoir. But as a child of a cluster B type personality myself, I sort of feel and dare to hypothesize that this book was maybe written more for people like the author, who went through similar things in life, than for people who couldn&apos;t put themselves into her shoes, hard as they may try. When I read through this book, I don&apos;t need her to tell me how she was feeling or how her body was reacting to certain stressors, because my body and mind already supplied those feelings on their own. For example, the passage you&apos;ve shown on screen about missed calls and voicemails and abusive e-mails — when I read it, my heart started beating faster, my hands started sweating and breathing got harder for me. I completely understood how she was feeling in that moment because I share that trauma. If I had to critisize this book, I&apos;d say it was written with the assumption that you, as a reader, went through the same things and she doesn&apos;t have to explain her feelings because you know them already. It might be a blind spot on the side of the writer or it might be intentional, I don&apos;t know. But either way, if nothing else, one should certainly look at this book as a valuable testimony and a window into actions and tactics of a narcississtic parent. (Sorry for any mistakes, english is not my mother tongue.)

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