The Pick Me Paradox: when misogyny comes full circle

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  @anomalysbane · 2 years ago

  the pick me label has lost all meaning, now we have grown ass women making fun of teenage girls for saying they like video games and don't like makeup

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• CA

  @callistourseides · 2 years ago (edited)

  Actual rage at the girl who called asking taller people to get things from high shelves pick me behaviour. What do you want me to do? Fly?

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• FI

  @FishareFriendsNotFood972 · 2 years ago

  "Be suspicious of any trend that blames women for sexism."-Tara Mooknee 100%!!

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• SW

  @Sweetie_Belle123 · 2 years ago

  There was a 9 year old girl who posted a joke about how she’s small for her age and the comment section was full of people bullying her and calling her a pick me 😭 like how are you bullying a child at your grown age? Are you not embarrassed?

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• LE

  @leila6116 · 2 years ago

  When a full-on man called me a pick me for openly talking/joking around, i knew this term had been completely bastardized

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• TO

  @toribees327 · 2 years ago

  I think the biggest problem with both versions of the "pick me girl" is that they both assume there is a normal version of girl. That there is this default and correct way for a woman to be and when she does not act in the correct way, she is a pick me. When in reality all women are their own individuals.

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• DE

  @deadfr0g · 2 years ago

  Oh, so you’re being true to your own feelings and living life authentically for yourself?  Seems to me like you’re living life for yourself FOR OTHER PEOPLE’S APPROVAL!  🤨

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• DO

  @Dorka0123 · 1 year ago

  As someone a girl who was somewhat tomboyish growing up this anti-pickme stuff really makes me mad, because I know that a lot of these pickme girls who always hang out with guys and brag about not being like other girls often do this because they were rejected by the women around them for having non-traditionally feminine interest. When I was young I couldn&apos;t hang out with the girly girls because I wasn&apos;t girly enough for them, so I was advised to hang out with the boys, but I couldn&apos;t do that because they always wanted me to prove myself. Like I couldn&apos;t just be a girl who like Minecraft and Call of Duty 2, I needed to prove to them that I wasn&apos;t lying and I didn&apos;t have the patience for that.<br><br>I&apos;m not sure why, but these anti-pickme girls give me the vibe that they&apos;re supportive of other women as long as those women only have traditionally feminine interests and as soon as they see someone that doesn&apos;t fit their definition of what a woman should be they start making fun of her and call her a pickme

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  @victoriafraga2222 · 2 years ago (edited)

  I remember in high school, as a girl, &nbsp;I would sometimes talk to my friends about some video games I liked at the moment, because I like talking about my current obsessions. I thought it was okay with my friends until one day one of my friends said &quot;omgg I&apos;m not like other girls I like video games and animes&quot;. She was mocking me and calling me a pick me and that shut me up so fast I didn&apos;t know how to respond to that. And that&apos;s what I&apos;ve been thinking. It&apos;s actually so misogynistic to assume that me talking about my obsessions is just because I want to be different/want male validation. I enjoyed dressing up, doing my hair, putting gloss on, shopping, getting lil drinkies. Like she knew that about me, but still called me a pick me just because I was infodumping on games, that&apos;s bullshit.<br>I&apos;m proud to be a woman but I wish I was perceived as a person instead. Liking &quot;feminine&quot; things is shamed, liking &quot;masculine&quot; things is shamed. Omg I just want to exist

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  @LunarOverdrive · 2 years ago

  This is literally just the same thing that happened with the term &quot;Simp.&quot; It&apos;s like people learn a new word and try to shove it into every sentence they can.

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• EL

  @elhammo7478 · 2 years ago (edited)

  I got called a &quot;pick-me&quot; after saying that I don&apos;t believe in astrology but am very into astronomy. The woman went on to argue that I could only have an interest in science to impress men. I was literally working on a book about planetary habitability.

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• AL

  @alyss4192 · 1 year ago

  &quot;Pick me girl&quot; label feels like just a card used to hate women who are different than the caller, no real definition behind it

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