Want to win? Stop trying to beat other people | Kayvon Asemani | TEDxPenn

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  @zamarsteward3506 · 3 years ago

  I think ppl are competitive because deep down we all want to be admired and accepted. The moment we are put in a position where we must compete and do not have the necessary skills or resources to be the best or amongst the best, that admiration and acceptance is robbed from us immediately. Because we all have this strange mindset that if you are not the best you are not worthy of respect, recognition, or admiration. Its a paradox we cant get away from

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• EX

  @excusemybeautytitiya9311 · 3 years ago

  I wasn’t normally this competitive or obsessed with being the best, I have good grades. But people started comparing me with a girl in my class and she passed me with few points like she is 4.86 and I’m 4.82 I mean really I’m grateful but I just don’t like the way I feel the need to pass her to be happy or called the best, which is why I’m here because this is not who I am😢

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• DI

  @dicksonamani4874 · 5 years ago

  "You ain't never gon' be happy, till you love yours " he quoted Cole.👏👏

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  @hayan_7 · 2 years ago

  Truly an eye opening session <br>1. How people perceived you, that ain&apos;t your fault. You&apos;re just a victim to their paradox of thinking. So don&apos;t try to prove others your worth, because they won&apos;t appreciate the seed until it&apos;s the tree they get benefitted from. <br><br>2. Comparing only brings unhappiness, so don&apos;t compare others blessings to your own. Accept your own blessings and keep watering your own garden. <br><br>3. Competition is an illusion, an excuse you give yourself to feel afraid. You&apos;re the competition. Be better at your field than who you were yesterday. <br><br>4. Life can be unfair. Be prepared. A soldier fights even if the battle wasn&apos;t won. Accept it and move on. 💕

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• CH

  @cherylniman5477 · 8 years ago

  Your Mother would be incredibly proud

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• LO

  @loveapureheart · 5 years ago

  I need to accept this. I get so sad and depressed cause I dont have what I want yet other ppl have what I want. I am learning to enjoy everyday life no matter what.

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• RA

  @rashid5271 · 6 years ago

  commenting so YouTube recommends it to more people

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• VE

  @veronicarussell1031 · 2 years ago

  One of the best TED talks I have seen. He was genuine, down to earth, honest, not over practiced and had some great advice on how to change how we perceive things. Comparison is the thief of joy.

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• WH

  @whostvee · 3 years ago

  “The best way to predict the future is to create it.” - Abraham Lincoln

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• SU

  @suhani9093 · 6 years ago

  He talked in a modern way by teaching us a very ancestral lesson!

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• GR

  @GraveyardThought · 4 years ago

  ‘Learn from it, deal with the consequences and move on’

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• DR

  @drharbirsingh · 2 years ago

  Take care of your mind and it will take care of everything else 🔥

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