Being a White Woman in South Korea

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• JI

  @JinsStreetInterview · 3 years ago · pinned

  If you&apos;re looking for a male version of this interview🙂<br>&quot;Being a White Man in South Korea&quot; <br><a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xPu6REZvO9c">https://youtu.be/xPu6REZvO9c</a>

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  @MerchYDuw · 3 years ago

  I’m so thankful for what the Canadian said about debunking the broad stereotype of western movies/TV showing us all as promiscuous. All that she said showed her wisdom and her respect of Korean history and culture. She’s someone I’d love to be friends with. Her mind runs deep!

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• HO

  @hotteoki4498 · 3 years ago (edited)

  A lot of these women are dating men in their 20&apos;s. I don&apos;t really think Korean men in their 20&apos;s are necessarily having serious relationships, especially with foreign women. I met met my (now) Korean husband when we were 29. I had to go on a lot of dates to find a guy like him.<br><br>My advice for serious relationships:<br>-Don&apos;t look for your man in a club/bar. <br><br>-If he&apos;s young, I would not expect you to consider him marriage material for a while. (Koreans marry later than westerners)<br><br>- make boundaries<br><br>- if your interest in Korea is surface level, then you probably won&apos;t get far with him<br><br>- there are a lot of men. If someone doesn&apos;t want to commit, drop him fast and move on

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• CO

  @corrintel7103 · 3 years ago

  When she said that &quot;foreigners get displayed as a trophy and are just there for koreans to show off&quot; I completely felt that going to a Korean school currently on my 5th month, now I don&apos;t necesarily look like a foreigner at first sight since I&apos;m of asian descent but I got treated the exact same way, for being fluent in English and from someone who came from America. It may not be obvious at first, but the more you spend time with Koreans the more left out you feel and are there to just get showcased around, not to have an actual conversation with besides curiousity or to help those in need. For ex, kids from different homerooms would come to our class specifically to see my face and have a 30 second conversation which were mostly bs then never see them again. And yes I have tried communicating in Korean many times tho I may not be the most fluent I can hold a decent conversation if they were willing to listen. Exclusion can hurt coming from someone who loves conversating with people, it really does. That&apos;s why focusing on learning to be more fluent in Korean became my only goal, less stressful and i can actually get a breather from using 90% of my energy to trying to communicate with a brick wall basically. So unless your coming to Korea to make friends, date etc instead of just touring, I higly recommend learning the language. It would be beneficial for both sides. This was a bit long but thought i needed to get it off my chest.

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• RO

  @rodsalomon6524 · 3 years ago (edited)

  Thanks to the Canadian girl for expressing personal and accurate responses that show her awareness of various social issues just like racism, mysoginism, and cultural imperialism.

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• EN

  @enooeeelelee_ · 3 years ago

  Everyone watching Netflix and getting the wrong impression of each other lol.

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• 성이

  @성이름-l7c9t · 2 years ago

  백인들은 문제를 일으키지 않고 대부분 관광객이니까 차별이 없는 거지 만약에 천대 받는 직업이라면 인종과 상관 없이 차별을 받을 수 있다

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• SA

  @sarahpenhale13 · 3 years ago

  This was fascinating. &nbsp;The thing I love about the people you interview is, they’re being really honest and there would be no point if they didn’t answer the questions as honestly as possible. &nbsp;They were all great, but the Canadian lady especially was really interesting. Thank you.

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• ST

  @StarlightAngel948 · 3 years ago

  Hello Jin! I liked this video a lot, as a white girl who really wants to visit Korea is very interesting to know the point of view of another girls. I agree with the lady in white dress that, sadly, because of how western media portrait women, korean men think we are easy to have intimate relationships and it&apos;s really sad because that&apos;s not the case for many of us.

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• US

  @user-fb6hy2eh5y · 3 years ago

  Asians in America is like being invited to a school dance, but no one wants to dance or talk with you. I don&apos;t think it&apos;s as bad for foreigners in east Asia.

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• IN

  @ineedachachabeat1886 · 3 years ago

  Yeah I’m a white woman living in Korea as well. I totally agree. I hate how people always assume that I’m promiscuous like I’m asexual 😭

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• K1

  @k15469 · 3 years ago

  한국인과 연애를 시작하기 전에 그들의 연애나 결혼관을 은근슬쩍 파악하는 것이 중요해요. 여러분이 외국인이어서 enjoy 상대가 아니라, 많은 한국인들 중에 연애와 결혼은 별개로 생각는 경향이 강합니다. 여성, 남성 관계없이 그런 부류의 사람들은 결혼상대를 선택할때, 사람보다는 조건과 배경을 선택합니다. 재산 또는 능력. 자신의 재산과 지위(학위 직업 등)에 비슷한 수준의 사람을 선택하는 거죠. &apos;결혼은 현실이야&apos;라는 말을 하는 그 사람이 바로 그런 부류입니다. 이런 경향은 고학력 고소득일수록 강해진다는 건 &nbsp;한국인이라면 아는 사실입니다. 여러분이 어학당에 다니고 있다면 그 학교에서 다른 학교와 미팅이나 소개팅을 할 떄 어떤 옵션을 선택하고 요구하는지 관찰하면 쉽게 알 수 있을겁니다.<br>여러분도 느끼셨겠지만.. 한국이란 나라는 엄청난 속도로 발전하는 과정에서 &apos;물질주의와 성과,능력주의&apos;가 강력하게 자리잡은 나라란 걸 아셔야 해요. 그러니까 썸을 타는 단계에서 상대의 가치관을 파악하는 것이 중요합니다. 그래야 끝이 보이는 관계에 인생을 낭비하지 않을 수 있어요<br>그리고 &apos;부모의 반대&apos;를 핑계로 대는 것은.. 여러분이 외국인이어서가 아니라 헤어지고 싶어하는 치사한 방법중에 하나에요. 같은 한국인에게도 써먹는 대사입니다<br><br><br><br>옛날이라면 모를까.. 요즘 부모떄문에 결혼 못한다는 사람은 극소수의 사람들입니다<br>끝으로 여러분 나라는 모르지만.. 한국 클럽에서 시작된 만남에 진지한 관계를 바라는 것은 모래사장에서 바늘을 찾는 것과 같은 확률입니다. 한국에서 클럽은 즐기러 가는 곳이자, 이성을 찾기위한 장소이며 그상대는 원나잇 그 이상을 생각하고 있지 않습니다. 거기서 지속되는 관계라도 대부분 잠자리가 목적일뿐이라는 점을 명심하세요.

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