Психолог: Почему молчание хуже ссоры? Эта ошибка убивает вашу пару | Сергей Насибян

Psychologist Sergey Nasibyan, consultant for the TV series "Trigger" and host of the "Triggers" podcast on Channel One, discusses why avoiding conflict ruins couples faster than arguments. Many believe that a good couple is one where people don't argue or fight. But the truth is, if we avoid conflict, our relationships begin to deteriorate. In this episode, psychologist Sergey Nasibyan debunks popular myths about family and explains why the absence of conflict most often means a lack of communication. You'll learn the difference between a genuine conflict of interest and a toxic argument aimed at hurting someone. We'll explore how to resolve crises sustainably, why silence is the worst childhood punishment, and how one simple phrase can save your marriage. _____________ Questions answered in the podcast: — What is the fundamental difference between healthy conflict and a destructive argument? — Why does our brain view the desire to prove we're right as a matter of survival and the fear of death? — Why, during a fight, do we talk to our inner demons instead of our loved ones? — Why is avoiding conflict and playing the silent game cowardice and cruel psychological punishment? — What is the loss of "subjectivity" in a couple, and how can we stop being stuck together as objects? — What simple phrase can stop any argument and return partners to constructive dialogue? _____________ ✦ Sergey's Telegram channel: https://t.me/psycholog_nasibyan _____________ ✦ Timestamps: 00:00 — Episode Start: Is Conflict Normal? 01:10 — Conflict or Quarrel: What's the Difference? 04:14 — "We Never Fight" — Is That Good or Bad? 6:18 — Why is being right more important than saving someone? 8:29 — Why do we hit where it hurts most in a fight? 9:47 — How do you "dress a demon" on your loved one? 11:57 — Is it possible to learn to manage conflicts effectively? 13:02 — What's more important in a couple: not fighting or being able to recover? 16:03 — "No war has killed as many people as the fight for what's right." 17:45 — A man and a rat in a maze: Fourth tunnel syndrome 20:43 — Silence after a fight — wisdom or punishment? 21:02 — Where does the "silent game" come from — roots in childhood 22:19 — Why did Sergey decide to talk more about relationships? 22:49 — What is subjectivity and why do couples lose it? 24:42 — Orthodoxy, Protestantism, and Personality: Which Model Works? 27:16 — Dignity Is "Sufficiency": An Etymology That Changes Meaning 29:10 — "When You Begin to Love Yourself, You Will Begin to Love Others" 32:54 — Is It True That Couples Who Argue Loudly Live Longer? 34:07 — The Phrase That Stops Any Argument: "Tell Me How You See It?" 36:43 — Is It Possible for One to Be Subjective if Your Partner Isn't Changing? 37:10 — What to Do Right Now if You've Been Hush-Up About Conflicts for Years? 38:32 — The Correct Way to Enter a Conflict: "Tell Me How You Feel" 39:47 — At What Level of Argument Is It Best to Break Up? 42:51 — Know yourself — and conflict will become a tool, not a weapon _____________ ✦ Interviewer: Dmitry Savchuk — has interviewed billionaires and politicians — Igor Rybakov, Mikhail Kuchment, Pavel Astakhov, Vladimir Zhirinovsky, Magomed Musayev, and others. Dmitry's Telegram channel — https://svchyk.t.me _____________ ✦ Episode tags: #SergeyNasibyan, #coupleconflicts, #relationshippsychology, #provocativemethod, #howtoquarrelcorrectly, #psychologistpodcast? #DmitrySavchuk, #ProvocativePsychology, #LoveAndAddiction, #RelationshipPsychology