Why Marriage in Korea is Hard : In Laws... etc । Marriage in Korea's BIGGEST Secret EXPOSED!

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  @MultiBnine · 2 years ago

  A psychologist told me that sometimes when a mother in law have a bad relationship with a daughter in law is because this matriarch woman is not emotionally healed and whole. She spent most of her life raising her son like a single mother at the same time not receiving the love and attention from her husband. She unconsciously creates pseudo- husband image using her son as her character. So, when another woman (daughter in law) comes in the picture is as if she has invaded her territory. She ends up resenting her daughter in law. which is where the aggression comes from.

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  @Bespokevents · 2 years ago (edited)

  Mid 40's Korean mama here of 3 sausages....I get asked all the time what my biggest advice is for young people getting married...my answer is always the same... Right now, for a single person your nuclear family consists of you, your parents and your siblings. When you choose to marry, that dynamic changes and your nuclear family becomes you, the partner you married and the children you welcome into your lives. Your parents and your siblings become your extended family, like your grandparents, aunts, uncles and cousins. Protect your new nuclear family and build a firm foundation with your partner for it. Don't let ANY ONE from your extended family on either side make you choose between your nuclear family and the rest. Always stand by the nuclear family you are building.

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  @annhans3535 · 2 years ago

  I think this is becoming a worldwide issue with mothers holding on to their adult sons.  I am married to one, thank God my husband does not take her nonsense and put a quick stop to it.  They feel entitled to their son's money, house and time.

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  @andreHK8 · 2 years ago (edited)

  Wow, she is 100% on this.....I grew up in a conservative Korean family, as a first-generation American this still applies. As a man, I understood these things instinctively, almost like a bird flying north without knowing why. However, I didn’t have the language to express it as clearly as you did, so I truly appreciate your insight. I’m also getting married this December to my wonderful fiancée, who is not Korean but African-American. There was a lot of resistance from my parents, but I stood firm in my decision and through prayer, we are getting married with their blessing~( Lord, really showed himself in our relationship, another story there).  Knowing what to expect and how to navigate will truly help.

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  @lilmamagc · 2 years ago

  my Korean friend told me that he thinks that Korean relationships lack a lot of love. But now i understand what he meant

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  @zikii9709 · 2 years ago (edited)

  Now I understand why kdramas always have the evil mother in law... It&apos;s genuinely a horrible reality for so many women in korea.<br><br>Edit: I never meant that ALL mother in laws in Korea are like this just because Kdramas portray it in this way. Megan herself has very caring and lovely in laws. It&apos;s just because the trope exists so much in Asian dramas, that it must be an underlying social problem within our culture. As one comment said, tone the kdramas down, and it&apos;s quite realistic for some.

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  @ST-gc5ki · 2 years ago

  This is Asian culture in general. Wives are treated less than which is wild because the mother-in-law that is demanding was once a young wife who wasn’t treated well herself and knows how it feels. It’s full circle not in a good way.

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  @nanceemoon365 · 1 year ago

  My Korean mother in law &nbsp;spent 10 years trying to ruin our marriage and finally did. Told me to cook things he hated, I couldn’t fold him cloths right, always wanted to do everything her way. Caused so many problems between my husband and me till she wore us down and found him a Korean woman to suit her. And he left with her. I took out two children to US and raised them on my own. &nbsp;So sad because he was the love of my life. &nbsp;I’m 77 now and after his second marriage failed he called and asked forgiveness. &nbsp;I told him he was forgiven and goodbye

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  @SannaExpat · 2 years ago (edited)

  <b>I knew Mr. Moon was a boundary setter. Megan don&apos;t listen to the people who reside in La La Land or might gaslight you for speaking about differences in cultures. It is important in any society to be honest, candid and transparent. We love Korean dramas but most of us wouldn&apos;t want to live in one.</b> &nbsp; &nbsp;💙💙

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  @jnd5706 · 2 years ago

  I&apos;ve had this. I&apos;ve been on holiday with my in-laws where they have literally shouted at my husband for spending too much time with me. His sister even referred to me as his wife rather than use my name. His sister and mother even told him he was disrespectful for spending so much time with me on our wedding day! Luckily my husband will stand up for me, but it really took me by surprise at first. I feel like, as a daughter in law, you&apos;re always an outsider.

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  @lifebycarson · 2 years ago

  GET THIS WOMAN A PODCAST 👏👏

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  @QueenDavidCreative · 1 year ago

  “A man will leave His Father and Mother and cleave to his wife”. Once you’re married your parents have no say in your marriage.

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