So you have OCPD, what now? (Prognosis & Treatment) (Part 3 of 3 - How to identify OCPD)

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  @trevorlmcintosh · 9 years ago

  I've tried so many times to develop good habits of exercise and eating, but my OCPD always gets in the way. I obsess over finding the perfect exercise routine and the perfect diet, and when I start one, I'm unable to stick with it because I can't do it perfectly.

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  @siaghaem · 7 years ago

  I just wanted to thank you. I have paid the price of being an OCPD all my life and had it not been because my wife I would have not known I have this disorder. Tears are literally falling my face watching these series of videos. God bless you 🙏🏻🙏🏻

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  @corvusmortuus2369 · 7 years ago

  When I used to exercise and diet any setback from my "perfect" diet and regime would derail me. Now that I know that this is due to OCPD, I am more mindful of this black and white thinking.  Beta blockers and DBT helped me immensely and is used more and more for OCPD.

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  @loribellemariechavez820 · 7 years ago

  My husband cure himself from ocpd by accepting his fears and anxiety, and letting it just pass by.

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  @naomid.3906 · 5 years ago

  Thank you for making content like this. Not OCPD myself but my mom has it and I've seen firsthand the devastation it can have on families and relationships. For the longest time, no one in my family had even heard of the disorder and despite now knowing, my mom is still sorta in denial having access to this kind of information is so important. There's not enough of a supportive ocpd community online so thank you so much for being the change and starting one!

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  @TheKennedyrain · 6 years ago

  I just wanted to say thank you. What you are doing is brave and has been helpful

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  @ves5657 · 7 years ago

  Thank you so much for being out here and sharing all this information.<br>A friend of mine who I love very much has OCPD and lately they have been having issues with not being able to stop working. They are actually really productive but that comes at the expense of taking little to no breaks until they&apos;re completely exhausted. Because of this, they spend very little time with friends or doing anything relaxing. They know this is unhealthy and that it hurts them but they can&apos;t stop. What&apos;s worse is that their family encourages it. And I can&apos;t be around physically to help. I&apos;m trying to find a way to help them calm down without them feeling distressed about not doing work.

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  @lmar_os · 9 years ago

  Treatment is difficult. I think it always is, with any mental illness. But people with OCPD face some unique challenges, as you mention. I find the lack of knowledge about this disorder by mental health professionals to be the most frustrating. There is already very little information online, so it&apos;s incredibly hard to realize that not even the professionals know much about it.<br><br>I happened to be lucky in that the first therapist I saw knew quite a bit about obsessive personalities, so he was able to recognize I had OCPD, when I myself wasn&apos;t aware it was a problem (I went to therapy for depression and anxiety). Unfortunately, the very nature of the disorder prevented me from continuing treatment. The moment he told me the diagnosis, I stopped going, because I thought he was wrong. How could my way of thinking/behaving be wrong? Unacceptable.<br><br>I did go back to therapy several times after, with different therapists each time, but it didn&apos;t help much. I didn&apos;t trust them enough to allow myself to be helped. I kept going back and forth between believing I could &quot;fix myself&quot; and thinking there was nothing to fix in the first place. My obsessive traits always came up, but mostly they thought it was OCD, which I&apos;m sure I don&apos;t have. I would dismiss any comment/suggestion they made about my obsessions and rigidity, thinking it wasn&apos;t that big a problem. I thought I only needed to get rid of the depression so I could go back to work and keep up with my unrealistic standards.<br><br>I tried different medications as well, some helped, some didn&apos;t and some made things worse. Other methods I&apos;ve tried on and off, but I can&apos;t seem to stick to them long enough for it to work. Also, co-morbidity with other PDs and mental illnesses doesn&apos;t help matters.<br><br>Still, I think learning more about how my mind works is what has helped me most. It&apos;s a very slow process, but I&apos;m positive I can make some changes to manage my symptoms better. Reading about other people&apos;s experience is very reassuring. So I thank you again for sharing yours.

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  @staceydavis2082 · 8 years ago (edited)

  I’ve no doubt that my spouse has OCPD and his brother too. Family events are not fun and I don’t look forward to the &nbsp;holiday season. <br><br> I find myself doubting my own actions and decisions because they are never good enough. I’m Inattentive ADD and if you know anything about it, we could not be further opposite of one another. I am actively treated for my disorder but getting him to understand he has his own may be impossible- as things generally are. I feel really alone in this. I appreciate you being so open and sharing this with the world.

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  @rogfusionkid · 8 years ago

  Good videos, nice work. No one has a clue about OCPD in the UK, the message needs sending out. I expect a rise in the incidence of this condition. Given the way people live near London these days. My best advice so far is follow general advice given for Anxiety &amp; Depression. Except don&apos;t go near ANY anti-depressants unless you absolutely have to. The best things......1) make sure you go outside Everyday and get at least 20 mins of sunlight regardless how sunny or grey it may be. Get some fresh air, deep breaths and spend the time just try taking in some positive vibes, even if it&apos;s just a walk round your garden looking at plants or whatever.2)Try your best to eat as well as you can. Start with keeping regular meals. Never skip a meal Even if you can only manage 1 mouthful. I think it&apos;s worth taking Omega 3 supplement unless you eat loads of fish. I don&apos;t think it hurts to try vitamins but personally I&apos;m not convinced by them. Probably easier just to eat more fruit and veg - start building it into your diet/routine.3) Exercise.. Get regular exercise-links in with step 1. A walk down the road and back will do. But a park or some wildlife is better, see some peace and beauty in things that have nothing to do with humans. Like the wildlife.4) Achieve something every day no matter how small....empty the bin, put that cd back in it&apos;s case.. open that letter..... whatever..... just start somewhere. One little thing at a time.5)Do something that you enjoy regularly, even if you don&apos;t see or feel that joy, it does come back.Other than that.....who knows? &nbsp;Go and aggravate your Dr until they do something, or complain to your MP/Congressman or something.One more thing, in the UK DO NOT mention OCPD to ANY employer. Chances are they&apos;ll screw you both unfairly and illegally AND get away with it, as there&apos;s no real evidence or data and no-one&apos;s got a clue about it anyway it just scares them. Arguments with no possible answers aren&apos;t worth wasting your time on, and just harm you. I went for a job, it seemed they wanted to employ me but when I disclosed OCPD it was like &quot;Ahh better check on that&quot;... &nbsp;They changed the job spec to exclude me and turned me down. I also got sacked from a FTSE100 company, they used my diagnosis as evidence against me, it was a flagrant breach of the law, and no one gives a shit least of all the people who are there to support us (the union). This company has a mental health campaign going on whilst they sacked me, the fucking bullshitters. And I was a top performer too. So unless you&apos;re legally compelled to disclose it, don&apos;t mention OCPD, blame it on something else (like plain old anxiety) if you end up having to say something, at least that way you can drag it out for a while so can make some money. It shouldn&apos;t be this way, but that&apos;s how it is here. I spent 5 years getting a diagnosis and in the end it was the diagnosis that caused me more harm than the actual illness.

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  @anonimo-xm7op · 9 years ago

  Hi. Thanks so much for making these videos. I am in the second camp; my self-criticism is so severe that my therapist believes it&apos;s the cause of my depression. She only said I have OCPD traits, and did not give me a pure diagnosis, but I definitely would have met diagnostic criteria in high school, when I only agreed to see my boyfriend once every two weeks because I was working so much, and had many unfinished projects projects. I would get four hours of sleep a night from overworking, and went on to develop anorexia. I&apos;ve recovered from anorexia, but I still have depression and PTSD. <br><br>As for my childhood.. it was abusive. My dad most likely had OCPD and NPD with antisocial tendencies. My grandpa most likely had OCPD too, and was known for his &quot;my way or the highway&quot; attitude.<br><br>I&apos;m learning all I can about the disorder in the hopes of improving my quality of life and that of those around me. To this day, I am still moralistic, extremely attentive to detail, &nbsp;fixated on lists, anxious about delegating, and excessively devoted to work. I also still use intense schedules and possess an overwhelming need for order. I hope my case is legitimate enough that I am welcome here.<br><br>You are spot on about the therapist making one mistake and the patient completely (or in my case, nearly completely) losing trust. I just experienced that a few weeks ago, and am trying to restore the trust. I also agree with what you say about feeling confused about your identity. If I become a more relaxed person with lower standards, I wouldn&apos;t even know who I was anymore.<br><br>I currently do exercise, take an SSRI, am in psychotherapy (although just delving into this disorder), do yoga, meditate, and just joined an online support group. I used to think yoga was stupid... &quot;it&apos;s not relaxing enough to be sleep, and not hard enough to be exercise&quot; was my motto. I now love it, find it relaxing and rejuvenating, and find it much less anxiety provoking and &quot;stupid&quot; than meditation. &nbsp;I will also try group therapy when I get the chance. I&apos;ll do my best to update you on how things go. If you find a method to lessen your self-criticism, please let me know!<br><br>Thanks again for doing all this research, reviewing it critically, and braving YouTube. If you can do that, I bet you can overcome OCPD in time.

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  @saramou59 · 4 years ago

  I’m happy to find you channel it’s really a huge problem and I’m trying to focus and get myself together but it’s not working so seeing you guys and others in the comments help me feeling that I’m not alone in this thank you so much and please keep uploading videos

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