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Episode 9 of the podcast explores a fundamental question: can love hurt? Although love should be mutual, supportive, and comforting, many people remain stuck in relationships that—though not necessarily toxic—are devoid of emotional exchange, intimacy, and commitment. Many women try to love for two, hoping that their commitment will "open up" an emotionally unavailable partner. Does this have a chance of success? Join us for episode 9 of the podcast "Let's Talk About Love with Ewa Woydyłło." This time, psychologist and addiction therapist Ewa Woydyłło tackles a particularly sensitive and often unspoken topic: relationships with emotionally unavailable men. This is a conversation for anyone who has ever loved "out of spite," missed someone in a relationship, or felt invisible, even though—theoretically—they were together. The Myth of Mr. Darcy—Why Does It Still Work? This conversation is inspired by the cultural myth of Mr. Darcy – a quiet, aloof romantic hero who "just has it" and whose partner's task becomes to decipher, break through, and unblock him. This archetype also operates strongly in contemporary relationships. Many women try to love for two, hoping that their devotion will "open" an emotionally unavailable partner. Does this have a chance of success? "There are two kinds of love," says Ewa Woydyłło. "Mature and immature. One that heals, develops, and gives meaning, and one that hurts, robs us of peace, and leads nowhere. Why do we sometimes choose the latter?" Emotional emptiness. Is love supposed to fill us? Ewa Woydyłło puts it bluntly: "Forgetting the feeling of existential emptiness – that's what love is for." But what if our relationship – instead of filling this space – deepens it? What if the presence of another person doesn't provide a sense of closeness, but rather highlights loneliness even more? This episode raises a fundamental question: can love hurt? Because although love should be mutual, supportive, and comforting, many people are stuck in relationships that—though not necessarily toxic—are devoid of emotional exchange, intimacy, and commitment. Am I in a Good Relationship? On Illusions and Silent Disappointments We often ask ourselves, "Am I in a Good Relationship?" "But we don't always know the answer. A relationship can be pleasant, harmless, and yet... not good. Because, for example, it's terribly monotonous. We spent 11 years of marriage watching a TV series without a single real dialogue," Ewa Woydyłło answers. The podcast encourages reflection on what closeness and the quality of relationships mean to us. Is a relationship that lasts—but is dead—still a relationship, or is it emotional loneliness for the two of us? A Relationship as a Vehicle. Where is your relationship headed? Ewa Woydyłło reminds us that every relationship has its own direction – it's a kind of vehicle that should lead us to fuller, richer, more conscious places. But sometimes it turns out that this vehicle is stalled or even moving backward. Then it's worth asking yourself some important questions – about yourself, your needs, about reciprocity, and what truly connects us. Red Flags You Shouldn't Ignore The episode also highlights specific examples of so-called red flags in relationships with an emotionally unavailable partner. These are signals that we often downplay, explain away, and rationalize – "he's just like that," "he can't talk about emotions," "he needs time." But how long can you wait? Woydyłło explains that emotional unavailability isn't a lack of romanticism or introversion – it's a fundamental inability to be truly intimate. And that sometimes the only way to save yourself is to accept this fact – instead of living in a constant state of dissatisfaction. About the podcast "Let's Talk About Love with Ewa Woydyłło" This isn't just another self-help series about dating or relationships. In the podcasts of Ewa Woydyłło, a renowned psychotherapist, author, long-time social activist, and expert in the field of addiction psychology, love is presented in all its complex, sometimes difficult, and sometimes healing dimensions. Who is Ewa Woydyłło? Ewa Woydyłło is a renowned psychologist, addiction therapist, and author of numerous books on mental health and interpersonal relationships. For decades, she has helped people build healthy relationships, cope with stress, and overcome difficult emotions. She is a frequent guest at conferences and events dedicated to psychology and personal development. You can soon meet her at the third edition of the "Free from Stress" conference, which will take place on May 31st in Warsaw. This inspiring meeting will focus on methods of coping with modern stress, and Ewa Woydyłło will share her unique strategies for building inner peace.