CIA Spy: I Can Spot a Controlling Man in Under 60 Seconds — Here's How He Does It -Andrew Bustamante

Thank you to today’s sponsors: OneSkin: 15% off code LISA at https://oneskin.co & Paleovalley: 15% off https://bit.ly/WOIPaleovalley You know those moments when your gut tells you something is off—but you can’t quite explain why? When someone’s words sound right, but their energy is just… wrong? Homie, THIS is your episode. Former CIA spy Andrew Bustamante joins Lisa to reveal the psychological tactics intelligence agents use in the field—and how YOU can use those same tools to spot lies, avoid manipulation, and reclaim your personal power. From decoding micro-expressions to understanding why women are so often targeted in the first place, Andrew shares real-world spy secrets that will make you feel sharper, stronger, and way more dangerous (in the best way possible). Whether you’re dating, networking, or trying to avoid a gaslighter—this episode will change the way you move through the world. No fear. No fluff. Just straight-up tactics for protection, persuasion, and power. Here’s exactly what we dive into: How the CIA trains agents to spot manipulation (and how YOU can use the same cues in real life) Why women are often targeted—and how to flip the script and become “unplayable” The secret to spotting micro-signals of deception in body language and tone What it actually means to become a “dangerous” woman—and why that’s the goal A dead-simple CIA rule that helps you stay calm, clear, and in control—even in chaos How to train yourself to stop reacting emotionally (and take your power back instantly) Why charm disarms—and how to recognize when you’re being socially engineered How to prep for emotionally dangerous situations with a spy’s level of confidence The truth about “dominance culture” and how to outsmart it with awareness This one is packed with jaw-dropping insights, real-life spy stories, and tools that will forever change how you navigate your relationships, your instincts, and your personal safety. So get ready, take notes, and reclaim your power. Chapter Titles: [00:00] You Are a Target: Why Women Need Spy Skills [05:14] The CIA’s Secret to Spotting a Lie [12:41] How to Become "Dangerous" (Without Losing Yourself) [18:32] What Predators Look for in a Victim [25:18] The Manipulation Tactics You Don't See Coming [31:40] Gut Instinct vs. Emotional Reactivity [37:55] How to Train Like a Spy (Even If You're Not One) [43:11] Why Charm Is a Red Flag [49:28] How to Prepare for Emotionally Dangerous Situations [54:46] The CIA Rule for Staying Calm & In Control [58:53] Final Advice for Women Who Want to Reclaim Power Want to learn more from Andrew? Find your Spy Superpower: https://yt.everydayspy.com/4ofNMTc Read Andrew’s CIA book ‘Shadow Cell’: https://geni.us/ShadowCellBook Follow Andy on YouTube: @andrew-bustamante Explore Spy School: https://everydayspy.com/ Support Andy's sponsor Axolt Brain: https://axoltbrain.com/andy Listen to the podcast: @everydayspypodcast Follow Me, Lisa Bilyeu: Website: https://www.lisabilyeu.com Instagram: Instagram: lisabilyeu Facebook: Facebook: lisabilyeu Want to search past episodes, explore specific topics, or ask me questions directly? Go to my Dexa page: https://dexa.ai/lisabilyeu WARNING: I will never ask for your contact info in the comments section. That’s an impersonator!